Wedding guests appalled after bride ranks them into tiers and invites them accordingly

Most couples invite people to their wedding according to their budgets and plans and give the closest people the highest priority. Most of these things are done so that the couple and the guests can have a good experience without overshooting the budget. However, on some occasions, a couple's wedding invite might seem unfair and impolite at best. A woman, u/Throwaway_B_Class, took to Reddit to share her experience with a bride and groom who invited their wedding guests in tiers.

"Back in 2019, we were out at brunch with a group of friends. We don't see them regularly but we make an effort to catch up from time to time. We were also in the wedding stage of our lives and everyone was invited to everyone else's weddings," the woman began. "Except this one engaged couple. The bride has always been a pretty self-serving person, but she's very charismatic and that glamour hides the narcissism incredibly well. The groom just goes along with whatever the bride says." The woman asked the groom how the wedding preparations were going and how everything was sorted. "They had all the (digital) invitations sent out and RSVPs had already started coming in." The woman realized that she and her husband weren't on the guest list, but they were okay with it.

"Fast forward a few months later, maybe 6 weeks out from their wedding, we suddenly receive an invitation. It was worded in a way that made it sound like everyone was getting a late invitation. But we knew we were the backup seat fillers," the person revealed. "The wedding was 1.5 hours drive away and I had just moved into my second trimester, so we RSVPed no." The couple got a very rude message from the bride in return. "We thought this was the end of it, but no. There were more guest tiers. Three days out from their wedding, one of our friends gets an invitation. Not only did they insist he RSVP yes immediately, but they also did not forget that this seat was costing them $300 and he should be getting a gift of equal value."

"The friend was pretty flabbergasted and RSVPed no, obviously. The message from the bride was again... not polite. So the bride and groom had their wedding, I'm sure everything was magical and perfect. And you'd think that this would finally be the end of it?" the woman wondered. "Well, come 2020, we have lockdowns. So, instead of the brunch catchups, we do a Zoom party. And for those of you who have zoomed before, you know you can be pretty creative with your background." The bride put a looped video of her first dance in the background, but nobody commented on it. "She called out the people who hadn't attended her wedding and said, 'I have had my first dance as my background this whole time and none of you have commented on it. You didn't come to my wedding and I spent a lot of time practicing, so the least you can do is watch it!'"

The group doesn't talk to the couple anymore. People took to the comments section of the post to support the woman. u/sparksgirl1223 wrote, "Anyone who demands a gift equal to how much it costs to host me is getting a hand can opener, regardless of whether I can afford more. Demanding I watch your first dance a year later because I didn't/couldn't attend...omg no." u/Madame_Kitsune commented, "If you tell me I HAVE to get a gift equal to the cost of my plate? You will get a second-hand copy of either Miss Manners or Emily Post." u/Bird_Brain411102 remarked, "I have a sneaking suspicion that the demand for a gift to cover the plate is why she had so many open spots literally days before the wedding."