Trial lawyer shares 2-word phrase that can 'end arguments' in seconds
'Sometimes leaving the conversation is the kindest thing you can do,' Fisher confessed.
Are you someone who struggles to end an argument without drama? Well, Jefferson Fisher (@jefferson_fisher), a trial lawyer, has this fantastic phrase he thinks ends arguments within seconds. In a video posted on his Instagram profile, Fisher confessed to bailing out of fights just by saying 'maybe so,' and surprisingly, netizens say it works.
When you're stuck in a never-ending argument or confrontation, instead of saying something you regret later, you must end it with a simple phrase that has bailed you out of tough situations. In families, it's very common to have arguments with grandparents or parents with very stubborn opinions. Fisher said in those moments, it's difficult to stay calm and respond with kindness, but if you master that, there is nothing better. "If you want to show up with a little bit more kindness or do the kind thing, use the phrase 'maybe so,'" he explained. Fisher believes it immediately defuses the fight. He said when someone's pushing their opinions on you, stay calm; don't defend yourself or snap back; rather, end the discussion right there. "You don’t have to agree, but you also don’t have to fight," Fisher wrote.
He explained that being kind does not always mean being nice to the person confronting you. "Sometimes being clear is kind, being very direct is kind; sometimes leaving the conversation is the kindest thing you can do," Fisher confessed. He recalled an incident where a deponent insulted him. "All you lawyers... I don't trust any of you. All you do is lie, so go ahead and ask your stupid question," the deponent said. Fisher felt humiliated, but instead of reacting impulsively, he chose to move forward without creating a scene. All Fisher said was, "Maybe so," and it defused the fight.
An online survey by MedCrave found that people can get really nasty when angry. In fact, 52% of college students said they feel like throwing things, slamming doors, or banging things when angry. Another 52% said they say nasty things to people during fights, and 53% confessed to being unable to distract their minds when angry, whereas 51% said they lose control of their behavior during such times. However, most (89%) young respondents reported regretting something they did or said during confrontations. So, instead of regretting, as Fisher said, it's always better to choose kindness over impulsive reactions.
Meanwhile, reacting to Fisher's brilliant way to end an argument, @emotionalintelligencewithaditi commented, "Wow, this hit hard. It’s amazing how much peace we gain when we choose calm over conflict. Thank you for this reminder, Jefferson!" Similarly, @gilman.artoftheheart said, "Absolutely — clarity and calm often hold the greatest strength. Trust the simplicity; it leads to peace and purpose." @hcchapman10 commented, "It is clear that you have had positive influences in your life, and I love how you share your strengths!" @yvonneburchanderson commented, "You are so right. Again. I am that grandparent, so I just sent it to both my adult granddaughters. They love you, too. Maybe so is a very graceful way to end the conversation."
You can follow Jefferson Fisher (@jefferson_fisher) on Instagram for more Inspirational content.
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