Gabby puts her first dates through three tests to check if they are worth the second date and it has sparked debate.
There's no rulebook that women consult when deciding who they want to date, but basic decency from a potential partner is a minimum. One woman explained that she conducts various tests to check if the man she's out on a date with is worthy, and it has sparked a fierce debate. Gabby, who goes by the username @respectfullygabby, explained her "test" in a video and it went viral, garnering more than 156,000 views and 21,000 likes.
While evaluating a potential partner is a continuous process, it's always important to keep an eye out for red flags from the get-go. Dating is a minefield for women, and Gabby believes a few rules can help weed out the obvious bad eggs early on. One of the first things on her list was to see if the man would pay for dinner on their first date. For Gabby, it's a deal-breaker.
"Here are some tests I play on men, in order to see if they are going to be able to provide and protect me. First things first, the first date he needs to pay. Let’s stop this conversation and the back and forth, 50/50 bullsh**t, first date; he needs to be paying 100 percent," she said. "And if he doesn't, then goodbye." For Gabby, the biggest red flag is when a man doesn't watch out for the woman. She explained with an example. "This weekend, I went to a bar in Miami and I saw someone who I had been following on Instagram. So, we hung out for most of the night, and then as we were leaving, we had Ubers going separate ways. His Uber came first, and he's like, 'Oh no, I'll wait for you.' I replied, 'Oh, no, you don't have to wait for me' and this man just enters the Uber and takes off. It is 4 am in Miami, Florida when no good is to come," she said.
Even though Gabby declined his offer to wait for her to get her Uber, she was secretly testing him. "Everything is shut down and I'm standing by myself in the middle of the f*cking street. If you don't care about my safety, and not making sure I get into my Uber safely, you're done. And then if you don't go ahead and double-check if I reached safely, bye! This man failed my protection test and never heard from me again," she said.
She then continued, "Men, you need to be walking her to her car, to her Uber to make sure she gets home safely, and then text her to make sure she got home safely." Gabby then explained that men would also be saving themselves by doing so given the rampant crimes against women. "This could actually save your a$$. You're the last person she's seen with. If she goes missing," she said, before tipping her head to suggest the man would have a lot to answer for to the police.
Her final test was to check if the man was willing to part with his coat if she suggested she was cold. "When we're out and if you have a jacket or coat on. I will always, without a doubt, say that 'I'm cold' because I want to see if you will give me the coat off your back, and if you don’t, you’re dead to me." She then wrapped up the video, saying, "And if you do, I won't take it, cause 'hoes' don't get cold."
The video went viral, sparking fierce debate on the topic. “Completely agree. Had a similar situation and I never talked to the guy again,” wrote one person. Some argued with her "tests." "Men don’t need to provide and protect every single woman that they meet. You're confusing the 1st date with a husband or serious boyfriend," one person added. Another added, "Agreed, they should pay. But, I personally wouldn’t have said no he didn’t have to wait. I would have said “thank you!” and let him wait with me."