Therapist's revelation about healing and becoming a perfect person strikes a chord with viewers

Social media is often linked to deteriorating mental health, but at the same time, the internet has also become a way to raise awareness about the same. Apps such as TikTok and Instagram have also become windows for mental health professionals to reach out to people and shed light on several misconceptions associated with their well-being. Many people end up confusing healing for the elusive pursuit of the perfect self, to become the best version of who they are. But true healing doesn't have to be about becoming an ideal person but it could be loving and accepting oneself with all of one's beauty and flaws. This is what therapist Kobe Campbell (@kobecampbell_) aimed to explain about healing by sharing a powerful video on TikTok.

Campbell starts by saying, “Healing is not becoming the best version of yourself. Healing is letting the worst version of yourself be loved.” This simple but profound message challenges the common belief that healing is all about perfection. Campbell goes on to say that chasing the perfect version of ourselves will lead to nothing but more anxiety. She adds, "That is bondage right, that is anxiety waiting to happen."

Encouraging a different approach, Campbell says, "Healing is saying every single version of me deserves love, deserves tenderness deserves grace.” This means accepting not just our strengths, but also the parts of ourselves that we might be less proud of. Healing, according to Campbell, is about giving ourselves the same kindness and understanding we would offer a friend.

This approach isn’t just about being kind to ourselves but it's also about recognizing that every part of our journey matters. It’s okay to have moments where we don’t feel our best because what’s important is embracing these parts of ourselves with compassion. "When we get to a place where we see and can emphasize with every version of ourselves, even the version of ourselves that we can sometimes be ashamed of, that's when we know we're walking in a path of healing," she says.

The video struck a chord with viewers who left comments saying how much joy it brought to their lives. "I had to unfollow people who thought healing was becoming perfect- I'm trying to heal the perfectionist, not become a new version of it," wrote @wanderlust0270. "Omg I have never heard anyone say this before and it is EXACTLY what I needed to hear," added @empathary. "My therapist told me to take the parts I need and release the parts that served their purpose. Not good/bad. More necessary and no longer necessary," commented @frozenkas. "I think this is where I am, I can see my unhealed inner child and refuse to crucify them. I want them to feel safe with me," prompted @sugarplumpixi.

In another popular TikTok video, therapist L.S. Pearce explained how capitalism harms mental health. She said that constant worries about money, housing, and food make anxiety and depression worse. Pearce argues that true healing isn’t about becoming perfect but about accepting and loving every part of ourselves, even the difficult parts. She criticizes capitalism for creating a system where a few people profit while many suffer and are exploited. Pearce also points out how society often blames individuals for their struggles instead of addressing these bigger issues. She emphasizes that feeling angry or sad about this is normal and valid, and accepting these feelings is the first step to healing. 

You can follow Kobe Campbell (@kobecampbell_)  on TikTok for more mental health content.