Therapist reveals five secrets one should think twice about sharing with their partner and why

It is a well-known belief that one should not keep secrets from their partner or have any communication gaps with them. But then again it is also believed that if you don't have something nice to say, you shouldn't say anything. A therapist on TikTok shared five things that you probably shouldn't share with your partner. Jeff Guenther, who goes by @therapyjeff on the platform, explained in detail why a person shouldn't share these five things with their partner.

The first point was about a person's fantasies about an ex. "If an ex pops into your fantasies while you're getting it on, those thoughts can stay private and don't automatically mean something. There's no point in bringing it up unless you want to create insecurity," Geunther began. The second thing was a person's "innocent and fleeting crushes." The therapist explained, "These things come and go for most people and don't have to be a big deal at all. As long as you're not behaving in a way you'll upset your partner." He continued, "Then keep it to yourself hot stuff." The third was, "The incredibly mean things you think about saying when you're in a big fight."

"Can you completely eviscerate your babe with one sentence because you know all their deepest insecurities? Yes. Will you ever say it? No, because you are a person. But when you are in the heat of the moment we think things that we don't actually mean," Geunther pointed out. "So zip it." The fourth thing that people don't need to tell their partners, according to him, is every single time they feel annoyed with them. "Partners are annoying as f***. Why science hasn't done anything about it, I have no idea. In the meantime, try accepting your partner's irritating quirks instead of eliminating them," he explained.

The fifth point Geunther spoke about was: "If a family member doesn't like them." The therapist disclosed, "Families are weird and have complicated feelings and opinions about our partners that don't necessarily need to be revealed. Your sister will probably come around. In the meantime, don't make your sweetie feel awkward about it." The video received over 895.4k views and more than 88.3k likes. People took to the comments section of the video to express their opinions on Geunther's video and share their experiences.

@star_peters_2.0 wrote, "I don't know, I know some people do the crush thing in relationships but me personally, I don’t understand it. Because whenever I'm in relationships I don’t like anyone and I don’t find anyone remotely attractive." @angelafl25 commented, "Your advice is always solid. And I love your humorous spin. A Therapy Jeff post always makes me think - and smile. Thanks for what you do." @getthegeek shared, "Literally, sometimes I'll meet a new person and get a big fat crush on them, feel really bad... two days later totally gone. I'm starting to think I just want to be friends with people really badly."

@bonniezuckerphd remarked, "Great advice!! Your partner does not need to hear everything that’s going on in your head!" @meiglee expressed, "LORD, without any warning, one of my exes told me that after meeting me for the first time, his mom said that he was rich enough to date someone prettier."

You can follow Jeff Geunther (@therapyjeff) on TikTok for more relationship advice.