A therapist has gone viral for his five quick questions to ask on one's first date to know if it's worth planning a second date.
Dating is the adult version of appearing for examinations, but the only difference is that the passing and failing of this examination are in your hands. You can either fail your date and end the night or pass it and head on to the next date! Either way, you have to appear for the examination and tackle some tough questions. To help you out there, Jeff Guenther, a therapist–who goes on TikTok by @therapyjeff–shared some great tips in a viral video captioned, “Five first date questions that reveal important information.” His insight on the specific questions to ask on a first date to get to know a person better grabbed many people’s attention. Guenther begins the video by explaining how a person's responses to these questions can reveal a lot about them.
The first question he urges people to talk about is, “What are you most passionate about?” He further explains that this question will help “understand their priorities, interests and what truly excites them” or the other way that this question can go is to “trigger a mini existential crisis” about how their life lacks meaning and invokes a sense of emptiness in them. Either way, you’ll find out where the person stands in terms of their purpose and passion.
The second question that Guenther focuses on is, “Who is the most influential person in your life and why?” The intent behind asking this question is to reveal their “values” and also the kind of people they like to have as role models. He further adds, “Do they exclusively list canceled male comedians? Great info to have.”
The third question he implores people to ask is, “What book, movie or TV show has had the biggest impact on your life?” This question is pretty obvious to understand your date’s taste in entertainment and also the stories that they relate to and imperatively, “What TV show do they fall asleep to every night?” He also slides in his preference, saying, “Personally, I’m a ‘New Girl’ kinda guy.” The next question is a cute one, “What’s your favorite childhood memory?” This question becomes important to understand their upbringing, family dynamics, experiences and most importantly, “fun teasers about the unresolved trauma that could manifest in a future relationship.”
Last but certainly not least, the final question he encourages you to ask is, “Do you have any unusual or quirky habits?” This question is for you to gain more insight into their personality and their “unique traits” along with “the annoying s**t they love to do,” which play a surprisingly big role in your decision to give them a second date.
Guenther made some really good points to consider while interacting with your date on the first outing together to see if the person is someone you should consider starting a romantic relationship with. The comment section had some funny inputs to add to his list of questions. @jonah_19 said, “What is your opinion on camping?” @scream4poutine added a hilarious input, “The first question definitely leads to an existential crisis for me.”
While there’s no guarantee a date is going to fulfill the expectations set in your head, it can be a learning experience like any day of your life. So, go ahead and ask those questions because you never know, what’s on the inside might be a whole lot better than what you see on the outside.
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