"If your relationship can’t survive two weeks of your partner going away it’s not really sustainable," said Kim.
Relationships can sometimes survive for years and sometimes they don't. However, it is not only about two people falling in love and then falling out of it. A relationship involves a lot more things like communication, spending time and more. That's why a therapist on Tiktok made a video on three things a relationship needs to survive.
John Kim starts with the first thing, which he says is distance. Kim says, "Not literal distance because there are times when you are going to be away from your partner and your relationship has to survive that. No, you gotta trust your partner, you gonna communicate, you gotta touch base." He adds, "If your relationship can’t survive two weeks of your partner going away it’s not really sustainable."
He goes on to talk about emotional distance. Kim explains, "There are times when we go through our personal shit and we are away we eventually come back around, this is the time your partner is going through something needs to perhaps be alone or go through perhaps what he or she is going through. Your relationship has to go through that."
According to Kim, the second important thing for a relationship to survive is fights. He says, "It’s not the big fights. It’s the little bickering fights that happen throughout the week, your relationship has to survive that. You have to learn to fight without fighting."
The third essential for a relationship to last is to survive each other's evolution. Kim says, "You know we change as individuals and if your relationship can’t hold the space to go on their journeys, you are not who you were 5 years ago or 10 years ago." Another important piece of advice from Kim for people who are in a relationship is: "The relationship has to be able to promote support and encourage each other’s individual journeys. A lot of relationships you know are toxic because they can’t do this. When someone grows the partner has fear, has anxiety," said Kim.
People on Tiktok learned some crucial lessons about relationships from the video. A user wrote, "I read something that made sense… a healthy relationship fights about the situation and a toxic relationship attacks you as a person." Another said, "I read something that made sense… a healthy relationship fights about the situation and a toxic relationship attacks you as a person." Another user wrote, "I read something that made sense… a healthy relationship fights about the situation and a toxic relationship attacks you as a person."
In another Tiktok video, Jeff Guenther, a licensed professional relationship counselor, believes that everyone should know 12 things about their love interest six months into a relationship to make sure you're on the right road in your relationship. “As a couple’s counselor, I feel like these are some important basics that you’ll want to build on as you continue your relationship,” the therapist had said in a now-viral TikTok video. If you and your partner can answer nine out of 12 correctly, you’re doing great,” he adds. Jeff tried to reassure his viewers at the start of the video, saying, "If you don't know these things, don't freak out, just ask each other. As a couple's counselor, I feel these are important basics that you want to build on as you continue your relationship."