The teen shared that she was feeling frustrated with how her dad acts around the house, especially when he demeans her mom and siblings when he returns from work.
Editor's note: This article was originally published on September 21, 2022. It has since been updated.
Women often bear the brunt of unpaid domestic labor in families, especially when they are stay-at-home parents. Mothers work an average of 14 hours per day, or 98 hours per week, to take care of their children, according to a poll. This is 2.5 times the labor one exerts at a full-time job. The study, which included 2,000 U.S. mothers with kids between the ages of 5 and 12, found that they typically began their days at 6:23 a.m. and concluded them at 8:31 p.m., with just 1.7 hours of free time in between.
On top of that, when a partner constantly complains about the quality of the chores without contributing their share of housework, it can be a point of frequent altercations between couples. A 16-year-old Reddit user recently tried to teach her father a lesson for undermining her stay-at-home mom and shared her confession on the AITA community. The teen shared that she was feeling frustrated with how her dad acts around the house, especially when he demeans her mom and siblings after returning from work. “My dad just gets home at the end of the day and literally complains about everything, like how the carpet isn’t clean or how the food is cold,” the girl wrote.
She came up with an extensive plot including a suit, black tape and some fine acting to try to portray how his actions looked from the receiver's perspective. "I put together an outfit that looked like a suit and put black tape over my lips to look like a mustache. at 6pm. I went inside the house. Shouted 'I'M HOME!!' then sat next to him in the living room and started kicking my shoes while complaining about the state of the house at the top of my lungs," she described her plan. She even yelled and when her dad asked what was happening, she just repeated a phrase he used against her, "WHAT?! CAN'T A MAN EFFING REST AFTER WORKING LONG HOURS!!"
She then stopped the act and told him that she "was trying to show him what he's like everyday when he comes home from work." After the dad stopped speaking to the teen and told her she "mocked" and "invalidated" him, the teen had doubts. So she visited Reddit to see whether her decision to hold up a mirror to her father's acts was appropriate or if she had gone too far. She also wanted to learn if there were other, more effective ways to get out of this predicament. In this narrative, readers largely supported the daughter, recognizing that the father was in the wrong and that she was wholly justified in criticizing him.
A user commented in support, "This is GENIUS! He didn't hear your words or your mom's words the many times you both told him the issues. Instead, you made him 'watch himself' and people don't like when a mirror is held up to their actions." The user then went on to say that it is not the responsibility of the young child to "help regulate your parents emotions". They added, "If your dad feels bad, that is on him. Your other methods fell on deaf ears, this one appeared to hit home."
Another user commented, saying some people deserve this kind of treatment, "this is absolutely hilarious and well-deserved and sometimes, people need to see how they're behaving reflected back at them to truly understand."
A user proposed a long-term solution for this asking the teen to explain her feelings to her father, while also asking her mother to take a stand against this. "If you can, explain that you didn't want to hurt him; you only wanted him to see how much your family hurts from all of the yellings. Say that you hate his yelling and that while it hurts you to hear it, it hurts more to wonder why your dad is so angry all the time. If that's too much (understandable) then focus on talking to your mom, and ask her why she's accepting and prolonging your exposure to verbal abuse?"