Sep 05, 2023
By: Abhiram SajaiIn every marriage, there exists a set of unsaid rules that both parties follow to reduce conflict and maintain harmony. These rules may consist of certain expectations and behaviors that couples tend to follow, based on a sense of mutual understanding and love...
Choose your battles. No two people agree 100% of the time, and being able to evaluate how much weight a disagreement should have is an undervalued skill. That said, it's easy to slip into a pattern of one person getting their way most/all of the t...
All the roses and poems in the world are a wet fart if you aren't a full partner in the daily monotony of living. Do the dishes, wash and fold the laundry, go grocery shopping and cook meals, take your kids/pets to their appointments and activities. B...
It is not always 50/50. If you feel like in the aggregate you're not getting enough from your partner, that's an issue, but the reality is sometimes one person needs more. Sometimes neither of you has enough and you just have to go into survival ...
When she asks if you want fries, she wants fries. You need to order fries for both of you. Does not matter if you want fries. If she asks if you are cold - it means she’s cold. If she asks if you are concerned about something it means she’s concerned about tha...
A lot of people think of marriage as a dance, with one partner leading and the other somewhat following. My wife and I prefer to think of it as being tag-team partners in a pro wrestling event. Sometimes I’m the one in the ring (like when I was working and in ...
Just let it go. The b*****it of 'never having to say your sorry' is half true. The really big fights in my 22-year marriage and 25-year-old relationship were mostly resolved by silence. It’s okay to be mad and it’s okay for someon...
You can't have any kind of contempt for your partner. Any sort of negativity, make peace with it immediately. For example: I'm a neat freak and my wife is the messiest, most unorganized person I've ever met. But I have made peace with it bec...
There's no magic pill for this, everyone is different. For me, I feel safe and secure waking up next to my wife. She's my best friend. She stands up for me and says she's proud, and I hope I do the same in equal measure. We stand together on how...
Have joint bank accounts and sit down every month to review your budget. Have a plan for your money that you both can handle and stick to it. Personal accounts are fine, but all income should be shared and then portioned out. I had to insist that my wife and I...
I don't tell my wife everything. Most things, obviously, but 'OMG! I just want my husband to tell me everything and open up to me' is a new feminist concept, and not at all what men should do. Had exes that wanted to know if women even looked in...