10 people reveal the most profound relationship advice they've ever received and it's eye-opening

Aug 28, 2023

By: Abhiram Sajai

Love doesn't need to be complicated

Human relationships tend to create complexity, and the level only increases when it comes to romantic relationships. While they do have their own pluses, they can be demanding at times because when two individuals who have their own personalities come together...

1. Plan out life goals

Discuss life goals (especially kids) and financial habits before you get married. If one person wants 6 kids and the other wants to be childless that’s not going to work. If one person has champagne tastes and spending habits but you as a couple have a boxed w...

2. It should not be very hard

That 'relationships are SO HARD' or 'marriage takes so much work' is terrible advice. Relationships take effort and maintenance and mindfulness, but it shouldn't be work. It's a garden, not a salt mine. If literally everything is ...

3. Don't rely on your partner for happiness

A partner is the cherry on top of a cake. The cake is your responsibility. Translation: A good partner can make you happier in life but can never make you happy. It is your own responsibility to have a happy and fulfilling life. The inverse is a little dif...

4. No means no

I don't know if it's considered relationship advice but... When I was around 14 and had my first serious relationship, I went to see my girl in the evening. Before I went out the door, my dad stopped me and said: 'Son, there's one thing...

5. Learn to move on

Instead of repeating what's already been said; My ex left me and for a few weeks afterward, my friends, mom, sister, etc. kept telling me: 'Why did she leave you? She's gonna realize she made a mistake and come back!' My dad, though...

6. Don't be too idealistic

I had this professor at university, he was an ex-marine turned therapist. Big cuddly, but very stern man. The class was interpersonal relations. He told us once, that relying on a long-lasting love and relationship to be this explosive, magical experience will...

7. Know what you want

This is advice I got from my therapist while recovering from a toxic relationship: Make a 'Non-Negotiable' list. Technically you would do this while single. Write out everything you need from a long-term partner. Read it every day, and ingrain th...

8. Don't repress feelings

Never go to bed angry, but also don’t stay up late fighting. Now, the key here is to read angry as it is. You can go to bed not in love with that moment. You can go to bed not agreeing. You can go to bed feeling like you need to work on things. What you don’t ...

9. Kids should not change everything

Don't forget who you were before you had kids. Too many parents turn into empty-nesters and then completely fail to reconnect with their spouse. Don't lose sight of being a couple just because you are parents. You shouldn't need to reconnect. Do...

10. Spend time away from each other

My soon-to-be wife and I got this advice early in our relationship and I am glad we did: Make sure you make time for yourselves. Spending time with my partner is my singular favorite thing to do, she's my best friend and makes me laugh constantly, but...