She floated a ski trip idea in the group chat, but no one responded — until she caught her neighbor buying gear for the trip they planned without her

Nothing feels quite as bad as being left out. A person (u/medical_judgement_791), who had recently moved from Texas, experienced just that when they realized their friends had been planning a ski trip without them. Surprisingly, the author had proposed a similar trip in the group chat in January, but no one acknowledged their message. A chance encounter with the neighbor revealed the plans made behind their back. The post shared on October 6, 2026, has since received over 1,000 upvotes on Reddit.

A cold surprise

The author was looking for a coat at a local REI store when they spotted a neighbor buying ski gear. They greeted each other warmly, and as they talked, the author asked if he'd ever been skiing. He said that he would be going for the first time in January, with two other friends. His words deeply hurt the author. However, they didn't let it show on their face. The author faked a smile and wished their neighbor a good trip.

After moving from Texas, the author texted their group chat and asked if anyone was interested in a ski trip. "I mentioned in our group chat that I’ve never been skiing before and that we should all go, split a big cozy cabin, and have a big friendly dinner when we get a good snowfall up north," they wrote. But no one responded. No one even liked the message, and they changed the subject a couple of hours later.

Taking a stand

The author was extremely upset to know their friends planned a ski trip without them. As a child, they didn't have close friends, and often had to invite themselves to events or activities. Usually, they had to make plans, and only one person would attend. They said it was "fine," but after a while it got to them. They concluded their rant by writing, "I’m tired of being left out despite being friendly, open, and consistent. I’m tired of doing everything alone, going everywhere alone." They waited for a few days to see if their "friends" would invite them, but they never did. The author eventually left the group chat and blocked everyone.

Lost in the crowd

Some people feel alone even if they are in a room full of people. That's what the author felt within their friend group. A 2025 American Psychological Association (APA) study found that 54% of adults often felt isolated, 50% felt left out, and another 50% reported lacking companionship. Arthur C. Evans, the CEO of APA, said, "We also know that social support is one of the strongest predictors of people’s well-being, reinforcing that connection is vital to our health. Reaching out, showing up, and building community are not optional; they’re essential." It was something the author desperately wanted but didn't have.

'Confront them'

Redditors had mixed opinions regarding the author's story. Some believed the friends were in the wrong, while others wanted more context. u/LeftThought687 wrote, "NOR. It was your idea, and it's obvious what they did. Totally rude and uncalled for. You don't need people in your life like that." u/Chazprime commented, "How well do you know these people, and how many are there in the group? Depending on where you live, they might have already had the trip planned. I live in New England, and most people here jump into ski season after the holidays (January). It is a little insensitive for them to not even respond to you, but without more information, it’s hard for us to gauge what’s going on. MOR."

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