Despite suffering from dementia, he replies to the questions asked with sass, self-love and absolute honesty and clarity.
Editor's note: This article was originally published on March 31, 2023. It has since been updated.
Dementia is used to describe several symptoms that affect memory, thinking and cognitive abilities with age. It can be caused by several other illnesses but majorly affects people in their elderly age. It affects their daily lives and causes much distress and confusion. However, that does that mean that anyone with dementia loses their personality and forgets how to enjoy their life. A staunch example of this is a grandpa who is living his best life despite having dementia. He hasn't lost his sense of humor even after getting diagnosed with dementia. Some of these conversations with a woman were caught on camera and posted on Instagram by Dementia Care Advocates.
The video starts with the grandfather saying, "I don't love you too much but I do love you." The woman asks him, "What did I do wrong?" to which grandpa has replied, "I have other things to do." In another clip, the woman asks him if he loves her to the moon and back and grandpa agrees. However, when the woman asks, "and then back around again?" he replies, "No, once is once." The woman asks him in the subsequent clip, "Am I your favorite person ever?" and he said, "probably not" and sends her laughing loudly. She asks him another question, "Who do you love the most in this room?" and the grandpa says with sass, "myself."
In one of the last clips in the video she asks him, "Do you love me?" and grandpa replies, "No, go look in the mirror." The video has gone viral on Instagram with more than 1.3 million views and 185,000 likes. Instagram user @chill_house013 said, "Him saying all of it with a straight face." Another person @chaarlotte.oliviaa commented, "My dad has dementia and he's not able to speak much anymore. It's awfully sad. I'd given anything for him to tell me he loves me again." This adorable video makes us realize that people with dementia also require content support, fun and engagement just like any other human being.
In another adorable video, Elaine Lebar, a 95-year-old dementia patient, has gone viral on Tiktok after singing Beethoven's "Moonlight Sonata," Debussy's "Clair de Lune," and Chopin's "Waltz in C Sharp Minor." Elaine Randi, Lebar's daughter, began uploading videos of her mother playing the piano after relocating her mother into a memory care facility near her home in Sagamore, Massachusetts. Randi said, "With the pandemic lockdown, all of a sudden, I couldn't visit her. I could only see her through a window. At one point, I just said, I need to put a face to these people who were locked up with no voice."
One of their Tiktok videos, in which Lebar is shown performing the third movement of Beethoven's "Moonlight Sonata," has received 8.7 million views. Lebar started playing the piano at an early age. She graduated from the Brooklyn College of Music and earned a master's degree in music education at the University of Missouri, where she met her husband. Lebar continued to teach piano lessons, write music, and perform in concerts even after she had three children.