‘Right in the fedora’: Woman takes 'nice guy' to the cleaners over entitlement to a date

Editor's note: This article was originally published on December 8, 2021. It has since been updated

'Nice guy' is an oxymoron if there ever was one. Nice guys like to play nice but often act entitled to a partner's affection. They almost demand affection in exchange for niceness and they are everywhere. One woman exposed a 'nice guy' after he started out by asking her out, before pestering her, demanding she date him and abusing and slut-shaming her. Despite making it clear that she had no interest in him, he continued to pester her, accusing her of playing 'hard to get.' He picked the wrong person and the wrong time, as she typed out a thesis explaining why he was an "entitled piece of sh*t" before urging him to seek professional help for being a predator. She uploaded screenshots of the takedown on Imgur and they're glorious.

It started out with a late-night message, with the guy writing, "Are you awake? Know this is really random, and we don't know each other that well but I'd love to take you out for dinner and drinks sometime. You're drop-dead gorgeous and seem like a lot of fun the few times we've been out. Let me know!" The 'nice-guy' charm was wearing off no sooner than it had started. "No response at all?" he asked at 7 am. She responded later and was honest, telling him she really wasn't interested in him. She thanked him for his message and thought that was the end of it but Mr. Nice guy couldn't help himself. "Come out with me as friends at least," he pleaded. She turned him down yet again but he just wouldn't take no for answer and kept pestering her. 

The entitled guy created his own parallel narrative to justify her constant rejection him. "Playing hard to get...  I like lol" he wrote. When she still didn't respond, he demanded an explanation from her and she duly obliged. "I will tell you exactly why, you entitled piece of shit. Being "patient" does not mean texting a person you barely know at 1 a.m and expecting a response by 7 a.m. on a f*cking Tuesday," she started off. "I have told you "no" FOUR TIMES, and you apparently don't know what that word means, which is disturbing on countless levels." She also cited his behavior with women customers to call him out. "You are a f*cking predator. For future reference, if a woman tells you 'no,' she wants to be left alone, not accused of "playing hard to get." 

"For the life of me, I can't understand how or why you feel entitled to a stranger's time, attention, and god only knows what else. I suggest you seek some professional help," she concluded. Aware that his game was up, he resorted to slut-shaming her and had the audacity to state that her not dating him was 'her loss.' She responded by blocking him but not before taking him down one final time. "Take my advice, and start listening when women tell you 'no' instead of telling yourself that they are just "playing hard to get," so that you feel less sh*tty when you're crying and hugging a pillow alone at night. I'm a slut, am I? Well then, what does it say about you? You couldn't even get a slut with no "self-respect" to go out with you. Peace loser."

People lauded her takedown in the comments. "Right in the Fedora!" wrote one person. Another commented, "The amount of times I've been called "slut/whore" when turning down an offer of sex. 😆 It confirms I absolutely made the right decision."