Relationship coaches reveal 11 questions to ask partners with whom people are together for six months to decide on their future.
Relationships might survive on love, but they thrive on commitment. It goes the long run only when two people put their all in to foster the bond they have with each other. Relationship mentors Charlie Owen and Mia Brooke help individuals navigate their relationships with guidance and tips. In a post shared on Instagram, they talked about 11 things people must know about their partners after being with them for 6 months. These things help individuals to know their partner on a deeper level, get closer to them emotionally and become a vital aspect of their future.
The first question in the list was, "What Does Friendship Look Like To Them?" Laura VanderDrift, in her study at Purdue University in Indiana, found that friendship is paramount for a healthy relationship. "We found that valuing the friendship component of one's romantic relationship is important," she told The Independent. "It leads to better relationship outcomes over time, including a more satisfying relationship, a better friendship with partner and even greater sexual satisfaction." Therefore, partners must come on the same wavelength when it comes to friendship. It will help people to have a strong basis for their relationship.
It was followed by "What is their favorite way to receive love?" Dr. Gary Chapman, in his book, revealed 5 kinds of love languages, words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, acts of service and receiving gifts. He believes these are the five ways that humans give and receive love. Individuals must know what way their partners prefer and also ensure that their way is prioritized. It paves the way for a relationship in which both feel loved and cared for.
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The third one is, "What is their most treasured memory of you two?" In a relationship, it is essential to know what exactly the partner likes about the whole connection. It is intimately connected to the time the two individuals share. By knowing the memory people hold the dearest about a relationship, the thing they desire out of the relationship becomes evident.
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The fourth on the list is, "What is their biggest fear/insecurity?" Relationships should be a safe space. It should be a bond that protects people from outside vulnerabilities. Knowing things that bother the partner can go a long way in creating the cocoon that protects the two people in the relationship. Mitch Keil, PsyD, of Keil Psych Group in Newport Beach, California, encourages people to talk about their fears with their partner. "Communication and mutual understanding are essential," Keil said to Psych Central. "Both need a willingness to honor each other's unique histories and needs. Many couples report that learning each other's love languages was a helpful tool in creating a sense of feeling loved and secure."
The next three were "What are they passionate about?" "What makes them mad?" and "Do they have spiritual beliefs?" The answers to these three questions are the tenets of an individual's personality. The thing they love the most and the ones they hate reflect their make-or-break elements in life. It is essential to judge whether the person can be a life partner in the long run. The answers reveal the ideological similarities and differences between the two individuals in the relationships. Their spiritual beliefs are also necessary components when it comes to building a life together.
The last set of questions were "What is most important to them?" "How would they define success?" "What kind of support do they need when they're stressed or sad?" and "What are they most proud of?" These answers reveal their goals and the way they function in their lives. Knowing the things they hold important and have pride in reflects their priorities. It shows the things they need to be encouraged on in their lives. Their definition of success shows their drive and whether they want to be associated with it. How they need to be comforted comes in handy when individuals want to look for solace in their partners. All these things make the relationship sturdy even during hard times.
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All of these answers are important to make a judgment on the nature of the relationship one wants to pursue with their partners. It also aids individuals in making their relationship strong and akin to what both need. The objective of the post is to explain that it is not only important to spend time with each other but also to make it meaningful.
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