Giving up your seat for the elderly is a common practice but what if you are a pregnant lady and you refuse to move for your own sake?
Most public transport systems have separate seats allotted for the disabled and veterans. But when those seats are fully occupied, those who can tend to give up their seats to those in need of it. But one 26-year-old pregnant lady faced an ugly situation where she was rudely told to give up her seat by an older lady. The pregnant lady, who goes by u/BusSeat_1234 on Reddit, turned to the community to ask for their opinion on whether she was in the wrong for not giving up her seat on the bus to the elderly.
She revealed that she works for eight hours per day and gets on the first stop of the bus route while making her 2-hour-long journey back home. "When I got on the bus, it was quite busy on the bottom deck, with only one double seat left available. Usually, I would go upstairs when it's this busy, but this time, I had about 4-5 slightly heavy bags with me and didn't feel safe trying to get up the stairs with them, especially since I'm 18 weeks pregnant, so I sat on the seat downstairs," the lady revealed.
A while later, an older lady with a stick boarded the bus and asked the pregnant woman to move. "She wasn't even polite when she asked and honestly, I thought she meant to move over so she could sit next to me. So I moved my bags and started to scoot over. Then she said: 'No, No, I meant, can you find another seat? This seat is reserved for disabled people. You are not disabled. There are plenty of seats upstairs," the post continued.
The expecting mother clarified that the seats she occupied were not reserved for people with disabilities. Instead, the seats in front of her served that purpose and they were empty. "Sorry, I don't feel safe going up the stairs with all these bags. I don't mind you sitting next to me though, we both have our masks on," the pregnant woman replied. "I don't want to sit next to anybody. I don't feel safe. So move your lazy fat behind and give the seat to someone who needs it," the old lady rudely replied. Despite hating confrontations, the younger woman knew she had to stand up for herself.
"Lady, I am pregnant, I am not going up those stairs with these bags and risking a fall. If you want a seat to yourself ask someone else to move," the 26-year-old fought back. Thankfully, a man sitting across from her gave up his seat for the older woman and went upstairs on the bus. "The lady spent the next 10-15 minutes talking with the other oldies on the bus about how the kids these days have no respect for their elders or people with disabilities or how they would have never spoken to someone like that in their day. While my boyfriend and dad said I was in the right, I can't help but feel like I acted like an entitled brat," she confessed in the post.
The Reddit community rallied in support of the pregnant woman who stood up for herself rather than sitting quietly while getting pushed around and insulted by the elderly. u/NinjaBabaMama wrote, "You should've pointed out where the disabled seats were. Also, older people who think their age entitles them to respect, they're usually the ones lacking manners." u/alexoid182 quipped, "Not in a million years. A) you were pregnant and had bags, too risky B) They weren't even the disabled seats! C) She was rude D) She wanted the whole seat, not you to just move up E) She insulted you. Any of these on their own would be enough for me to say NTA."
u/Nothing_Rhymed commented, "First of all, I don't know how it is where you live, but where I live, priority seats on public transport are for disabled people, old people or pregnant women and you fall into that category. Secondly, you were not even in a priority seat, those were elsewhere. The old lady could've asked those people to move but had no right to ask you. Thirdly, you offered a free seat next to you, she didn't want it because she needed an empty seat next to her for her entitlement to sit on."