Pregnant woman asks if she's wrong to refuse to cook breakfast for father-in-law who came unannounced

A relationship thrives when each parnter is able to rely on one another. During pregnancy, this becomes even more crucial. However, many women will share stories of their spouse failing to provide support during those nine months—and beyond. Recently a 25-year-old pregnant woman, u/Lazy-Radish8914, shared her miserable situation on Reddit, opening up about her husband's unfair and inconsiderate expectations. Though she did her best to make her father-in-law feel welcome, despite being exhausted, it wasn't enough for her husband. And people are not having it.

It all started when the woman's father-in-law arrived at their home unannounced days before he was actually supposed to arrive. Now the responsibility of hosting him fell on the woman. "I’m heavily pregnant and I could easily pop anytime from now. My energy levels have dropped significantly and I can barely do any housework," she wrote. Despite her exhaustion, she happily served her father-in-law on the day he arrived as she had prepared meals in bulk to save time and energy.

However, a couple of days later, when the father-in-law was about to leave with no prior notice, she faced some disrespect from her husband. "I was woken up early in the morning by my husband to iron his father’s clothes. I didn’t want to but I did it," she wrote and added, "I haven’t been well lately due to pregnancy and getting out of bed is a bit hard." But her husband wasn't too busy to help her. He just went on to scroll on his phone while his tired pregnant wife did the ironing. But that wasn't the end of his insensitive behavior. He gave her a hard time for not preparing breakfast for his father. 

"He didn’t bother to at least boil water for his father’s breakfast. After I was done ironing he asked why I hadn’t made breakfast for his father and went on to say I don’t love his relatives," the woman wrote and added, "I went back to bed and told him I wasn’t well and that I wasn’t going to make breakfast." Taken aback by this response, the husband insulted his wife saying that she had "become useless" and that he couldn't wait for her to go to her parents after delivering the baby. Worried if she was wrong to refuse to cook for her father-in-law, the woman resorted to the internet and an outpouring of love and support came in for her.

"Oh dear NTA at all. This is so awful to read! You are getting treated like a servant, a maid and not an equal partner. I would not stay in this hostile environment. You deserve a partner who is loving and respecting you. No one should call another human 'useless.' This is an abusive relationship and it will only get worse by now. I hope you find the strength in this difficult situation to leave!" commented u/Justrennt. "What's wrong with your husband? Pretty rich coming from a dude who can’t even iron or boil water. That’s the height of insensitivity especially when you are unwell and pregnant," wrote u/drunkolive99. "Your husband is showing his true colors, you should believe it. It most likely will get worse. Your marriage is not a partnership it's more like you're his maid. He is supposed to care for you like you care for him. Please go to your parents now and think about the life you want to live," commented u/ChapterPresent4773.