New tenant discovered a 'love letter' from 2022 hidden in their apartment — but its tone left readers uncomfortable
Written for Bokaa, the author tries to manipulate her decisions under the garb of 'love'
A resident who had just moved into a new apartment was shocked to find something very unusual. Well, they stumbled upon a handwritten "love letter" dated November 8, 2022, which revealed a connection between someone named Bokaa and their lover. Although the letter exposed a lover's restless heart torn between hope and heartbreak, it is not sitting right with the readers. The new occupant (u/harrypotter0406) posted the letter on Reddit.
The author began the love letter by confessing their love and then reminiscing about their first meeting. "You already know that you're really special... I have already shared with you about the connection I felt the moment our eyes met," they wrote. The writer confessed that their relationship with Bokaa was so strong that it felt as if they had known each other in previous lifetimes. "Maybe you have yet to encounter this feeling, but sooner or later, you will... that's how life works," they added. The writer seemed very positive about Bokaa, particularly because both families had already accepted their relationship and were waiting for Bokaa's decision.
The writer seems to cognitively understand it's Bokaa's choice, but their repeated emphasis on what a 'wise' decision would look like, prompts doubt about their intentions. Throughout the letter, in the garb of wanting the best for the reader, the author repeatedly forces their hand.
Moving on, the writer mentioned that they have no intention to manipulate Bokaa into moving in. "Anything that is being forced or thrust upon breaks easily... I suggest you decide if you wish to, and if you are certain about us moving on," the letter added, even as the repeated emphasis on a decision suggested an urgency beneath the reassurance. However, the writer said that if Bokaa wants to move in together, then he should not doubt the decision. "Our mind... it's fickle and doubts everything. It always comes up with brilliant excuses to avoid changes," they added, as if to brand any doubt in Bokaa's mind as mere 'cold feet.'
The writer admitted that they were also anxious about it, but they were ready to take the leap of faith. They acknowledged that they both have to adjust to each other's expectations, and it won't necessarily mean sacrificing individuality. "You know I am looking for an answer — a lot of things depend on what you choose. I respect your decision, and I will love you the same," the writer confessed.
Research shows that emotional manipulation in relationships is extremely common. One peer-reviewed study found prevalence rates averaging around 80%, with 40% of women and 32% of men reporting verbal or emotional aggression. It also found that over 40% of both men and women experienced controlling or coercive behaviors. These patterns often appear as pressure or emotional framing disguised as care.
For netizens, the love letter felt more manipulative than romantic. For example, u/vadapavaftersambhog asked, "Why is the love letter so creepy and weird?" Similarly, u/valleyoftits wrote, "It feels like a ghost in your apartment is inviting you." u/bewitchbotherbewild wrote, "This is no love letter — it’s manipulation 101." u/bewitchbotherbewild said, "I hope not to see any 'aww… made my day' type comments."
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