The woman had always thought that her husband knew exactly what he wanted and had no doubts about his breakup with his ex.
A lot of relationships rely on trust. But sometimes partners find themselves in situations where they might be unable to share everything. A similar thing happened to a woman, u/GreenFar5824, whose husband went on a final date with his ex before they got married. The incident came to light after three years of them being married, so the woman took to Reddit to share her story and ask for people's opinions about the situation and what she should do next.
"His ex was always 'the one who got away' according to everyone around him. He ended things because he didn't see a future with her, but everyone around him was shocked because she's so good and beautiful," the post began. "Then we met and I soon understood that everyone from his side preferred her. I even heard some call me 'the Camilla,' although I am neither much older nor less attractive." She added that she loved how she looked even though she didn't have conventionally preferred features like blonde hair or blue eyes like her husband's ex. "He never given me any reason to doubt him, however. He gave me the impression that he knew exactly what he wanted," the wife shared.
"He was secure enough in his heart that he told me he loved me a few months into our relationship and I never felt like he was lying or that I wasn't enough," the woman pointed out. "He is fully aware of what people think about him leaving his ex and he gave the impression that he thought they were silly and childish." The man even clarified to his mother that he liked his wife and had chosen to be with her. He also implied that if she wanted to be a part of their lives, she would have to "clean up her act." However, the woman recounted a recent incident, "We got married 3 years ago and only now I found out that he went on a date with his ex a few days before our wedding."
"He wanted to know for sure that she wasn't like everyone around him thought, the one who got away. He wanted to make 100% sure," the wife revealed. "His mom told me gleefully when she visited our new baby and looked at my daughter and said she wondered what would have happened if he changed his mind after that date and she was visiting their baby now. With a sigh, but gleefully. You know what I mean," she continued. "I haven't spoken to him for a week and I hate silent treatment, but I just can't talk to him. It isn't something I am doing to punish him. Or manipulate him. Or get the upper hand and control him. I just can't look at him or talk to him," the woman expressed.
So she took to Reddit to ask people if she was wrong for giving her husband the silent treatment. People shared their opinions in the comments. u/GGXImposter wrote, "Husband was being gaslighted for years about how he was making a mistake. He broke up with her for a reason and chose OP. His family then spent years telling him how wrong he was. Poor guy was probably starting to question his own reality." u/-deprimert- commented, "Imagine waiting 3 years on information just so you can tell a new mother that you wish the baby wasn't hers. Disgusting." u/Stripedhoneybee90 remarked, "Your husband is an a******, but your mother-in-law loathes you. To think she held onto this information until you were happy with a new baby, totally vulnerable and then decided to drop this. That is calculated evil."