People rally around woman who was asked to leave friend's baby shower over a weird dress code

Many events have unspoken dress codes that everyone is expected to follow. For instance, it’s generally accepted that only the bride and groom dress up on their wedding day, unless there's a specific dress code. However, things can turn sour if someone takes it too far. This happened to u/Lost_loster-1644, a 29-year-old woman who was surprised when her white and blue sundress upset her friend at a baby shower.

"I have been friends with 'Claire' since high school. We have a small group of friends that has stayed close since then. Claire is pregnant and had her baby shower yesterday. I wore a white and blue floral sundress. I didn't think anything of it because, as far as I know, white is only inappropriate for bridal events," the woman shared. She pointed out that as soon as she reached the baby shower, Claire got upset and was quite cold toward her. 

"Later, one of my other friends pulled me aside and asked me to leave. She said that Claire was offended by my 'attention-seeking behavior' and that it was inappropriate to wear white to Claire's event. I left," she explained. The woman was quite confused as she thought that the rule for white clothes applied only to weddings. "Our friends are refusing to take sides, but a couple have told me I should apologize even if I don't think I'm wrong," the post concluded. She asked Reddit if she was in the wrong.

People took to the comments to support the woman. u/Momjamoms wrote, "You're not wrong. That's not a thing. Are you sure the color of the dress was the issue? It seems nonsensical." The woman replied, "I've been told it's about the dress, but I'm starting to think it's a body image thing. I'm not as thin as the rest of the girls in the group. Maybe Claire is upset that she is, for very good reason, the 'big' one right now." The woman also shared the picture of her dress in question.

u/Public_Topic_5242 wondered, "Could it have been about the blue rather than the white? Was she intending to tell everyone the baby's gender at the party? Either way, though, unless there is a code in your/her culture that prohibits certain colors at baby showers or unless she asked you not to wear certain colors, you're not at fault. Although even if she asked you not to wear certain colors, I don't think you'd be at fault. I don't think host(ess) should tell their guests what to wear." The friend confirmed it was not a gender reveal problem, as Claire had already told everyone that the baby was a girl.

u/asecretnarwhal commented, "Wearing a white or floral dress isn't a reason to be harassed or asked to leave. It's not attention-seeking. Being fat or thin or any body shape isn't a valid reason either. Unless your dress was excessively skimpy, these people were majorly in the wrong. These people are not friends, they are frenemies and you'd be better off without all of the people who attacked you." u/SirReal_Realities remarked, "This isn't about the color of your dress. That was the pathetic excuse you were given. Whoever pulled you aside owes you an explanation. Unless this is just hormones (possible)... your 'friend' might not be one anymore."

This article originally appeared 3 months ago.