Community rallies around woman who broke up with boyfriend over 'traditional wife' demand

Effective communication about long-term plans is fundamental to a healthy relationship. Life's major decisions require mutual agreement to be successfully managed, and disagreements can significantly damage a relationship. u/Academic-Comfort5499 shared a story about how her boyfriend completely changed his stance on having kids and getting married, which pushed her to break up with him. Uncertain if her decision was too harsh, she sought opinions from the online community.

The post quickly went viral, earning 9K upvotes and 5.3K comments. The woman mentioned that she and her boyfriend are both 26 years old and have a college education. She wrote, "Both goal-oriented and regarded highly in our respective careers. Both come from lower middle-class families that had to struggle." Since they both came from similar backgrounds, they both agreed that they would only have children once they were 30 years old and married for a few years.

The relationship took a turn when her boyfriend started sending her numerous "baby videos and traditional wife videos" at work. The girlfriend initially did not think too much of this because she thought he was just "envisioning" their future together. However, his behavior continued, so she asked him about it one day over dinner. She wrote, "He told me he doesn't want us to both be working parents and would love for me to be a traditional wife and give up my career for raising children."

What shocked the woman was that he wanted her to do all of this in the next few years. She tried to laugh it off, but the boyfriend stated that he was very serious about it and hoped that the woman was okay with the "change of plans." The woman revealed, "I didn't say anything for the rest of the dinner and when he dropped me off, I gave him a peck on the cheek and said, 'I love you, but we're done, good luck finding your traditional wife.'" The boyfriend was puzzled, but the woman continued to walk towards her home and she blocked him on everything. 

In her post, she stated her desire to continue working and not rush into having children. Though her friends seemed to think she was "too harsh" on her now ex-boyfriend, people in the comments section sided with the woman. u/AhsokaSolo said, "If he doesn't think you deserve to even have input on this change now, imagine how controlling he'll be after marriage. I don't think you overreacted." u/Hitchhiker2Galaxy commented, "You are my idol. I wish I had the confidence to leave toxic relationships like you did." 

Another individual, u/Fine-Wonder-5984, expressed, "You're not crazy. This guy has swallowed too many red pills and is heading down the alt-right rabbit hole. He's becoming one of those 'alpha males.' You did the right thing." u/frostyfoxemily said, "You did the right thing. He made demands of what he wanted but sounded like he had no interest in your take. That you simply had to be okay with it."