The man decided not to let any other plans ruin his family vacation when his uncooperative wife and stepdaughter made him choose sides.
Life often comes with certain hindrances that test our patience to the extreme. But with immense support and positivity, it becomes easier to deal with them. A man posted on Reddit recently about choosing his and his family's comfort over his wife and stepdaughter's unreasonable demands. When his wife and stepdaughter insisted on making a huge and unfair change to the man's substantially expensive vacation plan, he decided to leave them behind and proceed with his arrangement. With a wavering mind, u/FewMasterpiece1117 posted in the community and thousands of reassuring comments poured in.
The man who has two kids with his wife wrote that his stepdaughter had a best friend whose birthday fell in December. Though he was up for attending his stepdaughter's best friend's birthday every year, this year was an unlikely exception. "This year, my side of the family planned to take a huge overseas Christmas vacation, which required us to ask the friend’s mother for the party date. We planned and bought our tickets to leave two days after the party so that my stepdaughter wouldn’t miss it," said the father. But fate had other plans because the best friend's birthday was unexpectedly moved to a later date, well after their departure date.
Changing an overseas vacation plan comes with a lot of inconveniences. The father would have to spend much more money on flights and hotels, cut short his 2-week planned vacation to just a week's trip, sacrifice seeing some of his siblings whom he gets to see only once a year during Christmas and his entire family would have to change their plans too. Such were the consequences of skipping the stepdaughter's BFF's sweet 16 party. Rather than abruptly denying the party, the father considered how important it was for his wife and stepdaughter. "It’s a sweet 16th birthday party. I‘ve been told almost everyone in their class is attending. The other mother and my wife have been friends since the birth of their girls. She helped my wife through her divorce and my stepdaughter stayed with them for days at a time during the worst part of that process," he wrote.
The man's wife shot down his idea of either asking the woman who is throwing the party to reconsider the dates or letting the stepdaughter stay until the party and join them on vacation later. "My wife’s solution is for us to just fly out after the party. I don’t like this idea at all because of the added cost and lessening time," he wrote. The arguments over this issue blew up and the man said, "My wife put her foot down and said that we’re not missing the birthday party, to which I replied that she’s not missing the birthday party. I told her I was flying out with our two kids as planned, whether or not she was on the flight." His decision did not sit well with his wife and stepdaughter and the concerned father was perplexed by the mess it has created in the family.
"You already planned your vacation around their party so you shouldn't have to change it to accommodate the party. I don't get how a birthday party and an overseas family vacation are anywhere near the same. You came up with several viable solutions and your wife is being unreasonable by not listening to any of them," commented u/Turkey-With-Cheese. "I feel like the best solution here would be for wife and stepdaughter to plan a smaller night out with the friend and friend's mom before the trip," wrote u/greeneyedwench.