Bride shuns groom's ex-fiancée from wedding party, says she feels like a 'third wheel'

Many try to burn the bridges of their past while moving on to a new life. But when some people carry their past onto their future, it creates a ruffle. That was the case for a man who continued to prioritize his ex even while he was about to set off to new beginnings. A 27-year-old bride-to-be u/MulberryFormal3619 posted on Reddit sharing her skepticism over her decision of not letting her fiance's ex be a part of the wedding party. Before dating her, her 33-year-old fiancé was briefly engaged to his long-time girlfriend, Liz, who was also his childhood best friend.

Not willing to marry for the "wrong reasons," the groom and his ex-fiancé broke off the engagement but continued to remain friends. The bride knew Liz was a significant part of her fiance's family and also his younger sister's best friend. Though the bride liked Liz, she said, "There are times when we hang out that I feel left out, like I am the 3rd wheel, because of their inside jokes and shared childhood stories." However, she had always been "open-minded" about her fiancé's friendship with Liz as she trusted them. However, when the topic of deciding each other's wedding party came, the groom's decision to include Liz in his party disappointed the bride.

"I was taken back. I told him that I wasn't comfortable with having her at the wedding party. I told him I was more than happy to have her attend the ceremony and reception. And that she can sit with his family and be in the family pictures," the bride wrote. Despite the bride graciously agreeing to include the groom's sister in her wedding party, he failed to consider his fiancée's feelings while choosing his wedding party. "He said that it was his wedding party and that it was his decision who was going to be in it. That I have the right to choose my wedding party. So, he should be able to choose whoever he likes," she mentioned. The bride played fair by not involving her high-school sweetheart in her wedding party.

However, no explanations could convince the groom and it caused a ripple between the soon-to-be-weds. "Out of anger, I told him to choose. Me or her. If she's in the wedding party, then I won't be standing at the altar," the bride wrote. However, this didn't make a difference in the groom's choice, as he stayed at his brother's place until she "calmed down and was reasonable." The viral post gained nearly 1000 comments, with people rallying around in bride-to-be's support.

"Your boundaries are not wrong and it's concerning how your fiance is fighting for her by fighting against you on this by using the old guilt trip tactic. 'You pick who you want, so I'm picking who I want' and 'calm down' in suggesting you are aggressive and unfair," commented u/Kylito-77. "This woman is his former fiancée. It is ludicrous for him to dig in the way he is. He's showing where his priorities lie and it's not with you. If I were you, I wouldn't be marrying a man who talks down to me about something that he is so blatantly wrong about. Your marriage will always be like this," wrote u/Cursd818. "Being friends with an ex who is a family friend is one thing. Adding this person to the wedding party is something else, especially against your wishes. OP, you are open-minded enough. But this kind of relationship they have is a red flag. You shouldn't feel like a third wheel next to your partner," commented u/Danube_Kitty.

This article originally appeared 8 months ago.