People name 24 'red flags' that actually shouldn't be considered problematic

Reddit user MuchDuck kicked off an interesting discussion in the r/AskReddit community a couple of weeks ago when they posed this thought-provoking question to its 37 million members: "What is widely considered a red flag but actually is not?" Thousands of responses flooded in, with people taking the opportunity to clear the air on some behavioral traits and relationship and lifestyle choices that are widely demonized by society. 

Here are 24 of the top "red flags" that people think should not be demonized:

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"Being quiet. Everyone thinks I'm autistic or a nerd or something. I kind of shut up about it because I don't care and I'm not there to try and prove to anyone anything or tell them they are wrong. It's actually a good filter for me actually. But every one that works with me, or has to be around me for a long enough time, over time, realizes I'm a pretty cool dude and like to do fun shit.

Someone even told me, 'ya know mathaiser, I thought you were a huge dork but you're actually pretty cool.' So, what red flag is that? Being kinda quiet/shy. Just because I'm not pressing whatever advantage or peacocking there is, kinda adds to my quality imo. But I don’t think about it like that either. Just trying to explain it." — mathaiser

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"Men having female friends. A lot of girls get jealous, but if it's a real friendship and not a bunch of exes and hookups, it actually shows women consider them reliable and good people to have around." — freakydude92

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"Not having any prior sexual or relationship experience." — ChickenzInvade

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"Jealousy. It’s a human emotion. Feeling jealousy isn’t a red flag. Now, punching the wall, or taking that feeling of jealousy out on a person IS a red flag." — Conscious-Studio8111

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"I have been criticized and been told I will never be in a good relationship because I don’t want to go to college. I am sorry that I don’t want to go into debt when I am able to make around the same as a person with a college degree, with only going to trade school for a few thousand dollars." — sparklyboi2015

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"The amount of women I know that take it as a red flag that a guy doesn't pay for all dates/buy them things. I'm proud of what I have done with my life and that I can go do those things myself, I like a guy that treats me as an equal. That is not a red flag at all to me." — LeafsChick

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"Going to therapy." — TruthProfessional340

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