People married to identical twins share why they're glad they didn't end up with the other twin

Identical yet poles apart.

Many people have been in relationships with or have married a partner who has an identical twin. Surely, everyone knows that looks were not the deciding factor, considering they had almost a replica in terms of appearance. It often makes one wonder how a person chooses an identical twin over the other. With so many similarities, what was the distinguished attribute that served as the deal-breaker? u/nicknamesofdaveryder asked the question on Reddit, "Users who married someone with an identical twin sibling, why are you glad you're not with the other twin instead?" With numerous comments, people sure have intriguing and mind-baffling answers to the same. Here are 10 of the most striking responses.

1. Felt like a sibling 

The other twin has the same personality as I do. We argue readily and are super competitive with each other. We butt heads on a lot of issues. Reddit Your spouse married the equivalent of their twin. u/TalurMasin I'm probably more like my partner's twin sister than I am like my partner. We butt heads a lot. But she is also one of my best friends. We often hang out just the two of us. u/MSeager

2. Personality and little details 

Their personalities are very different. My wife is more dramatic and kind of the baby, but she's more adventurous, loves to travel with me and we learn and grow together. Her sister is calmer, more bossy, somewhat rude, not as adventurous, more stubborn and set in her ways. u/TheRiteGuy My dad dated a woman with identical twin sons for a few years that I got pretty close with. There are so many small details in people that make them unique, the tone and cadence of their voice, the tiny expressions on their face, how they walk and hold their body, their color palette (in clothing), etc. u/meesterdg

3. The "it" factor 

Even though they were mirror images of each other, there was no mistake about who was who. They dressed differently, spoke differently and had this "it" factor the others didn't. They each had very unique personalities. I didn't marry either one of them, but the experience of dating twins was quite fun. u/phxTOmsp My brother-in-law can be really cold and heartless and prioritizes his own comfort over everything else. My husband does not have these traits. But still - he and I used to clash a lot. u/YourLocalMosquito

4. Sexual orientation

Not me, but my sibling is married to an identical twin - the other twin has a different sexual orientation. u/SpenceAlmighty Have had the same thing happening with a former colleague. He is an identical twin and gay, but his brother is not. The only thing that's weird to me is that his boyfriend also looks exactly like the twins! The straight brother has had a hard time coping with it all and I can kinda see why. u/Imperial_Emprical 

5. Compatibility

I'm the twin in our relationship, but my sister is super square and my husband is very much not. I can't think of two people less compatible, honestly! I'm sure he's physically attracted to her though. -u/Nocomt I dated a twin for 2 years. I could not hold a one-on-one conversation with the other twin to save my life. u/kissyu They like a lot of the same things, but my fiancé has ideals that match mine much more than his brothers. Plus, I have plenty of romantic chemistry with my fiancé and none with his twin. Same face≠same personality. u/ChristmasPterodacty1

6. Polar opposites

They have different values and life goals, hobbies, one is introverted and the other is extroverted. If they were two people who didn't look alike, I would automatically not be attracted to my brother-in-law simply because we are not remotely compatible personality-wise. Also, they have very different styles. I do not find the way my husband's twin dresses/grooms his hair attractive. It's so wild to me when people can't tell them apart because they couldn't be more different in my eyes. u/lanieeeeeeee

7. Connecting and conversing

I like my wife more than her sister. Her sister is fun, but I feel that I can't have a full conversation with her. My wife is more mature and decisive whereas, her twin can't make a decision without consulting others to make it for her. I never was interested in her twin nor got them mixed up. u/Jake-rumble

8. Different emotional quotients

Married an identical twin - I love my brother-in-law because I can joke and talk to him in the same way as my husband. They have the same sarcastic sense of humor. He's much more of a mama's boy and struggles with anxiety, whereas my husband is a rock. I can't imagine being with his twin instead. u/D0gPaulAnka Because I got the one that loves all the same things I do and is way more outgoing and optimistic. u/zmannz1984

9. Attraction

If I had to describe the difference in the way I feel about them, I still have a crush on my wife. Everything about her is what I want. With her sister, it's like being great friends with an ex-wife. I do like the way she looks, but I know I am not in love with or attracted to her otherwise. u/zmannz1984 She's ambitious, strong-headed and courageous and we share similar dreams and aspirations. It's why I'm attracted to my wife. u/drucejnr

10. Thoughts and beliefs

My husband's twin is super religious and fairly conservative. My husband and I are more agnostic and liberal. I always thought it was interesting how different their values and beliefs are. u/mojojojo0991 Besides me thinking my husband is more attractive physically, he has a better personality. My brother-in-law is in a long-term relationship and when his girlfriend tells me things he does/or doesn't do, I secretly thank God for being with the "better twin." u/One_love_326