Even today, people of all genders constantly find themselves battling problematic gender roles and outdated double standards.
We as a society have long outgrown the sexist notion that it is socially unacceptable for any gender to engage in behavior typically reserved for another gender. Yet, all genders constantly find themselves battling problematic gender roles and outdated double standards. Reddit user u/ENTPain called attention to this a couple of months ago when they turned to the r/AskReddit community with this question: "What is a double standard that you have experienced as a guy but is seen as okay if you were a girl?"
Here are 25 of the top responses:
"My high school girlfriend physically attacked me the day I broke up with her. In retrospect, there were red flags but at the time it was completely unexpected. She clawed at my face and sank her teeth into the inside of my thigh next to the groin. I had to punch her arm with all of my strength to get her to let go of me. It was horrible.
With the exception of my mom, no one I told gave the slightest sh*t about what had happened. In fact, I had to spend weeks concerned she would tell someone I'd victimized her. She left threatening voicemails and stalked me at work for a couple of months afterward. I also got a series of mysterious flat tires. Again, no one cares. You're a man and you need to look after yourself." — lordorwell7
"Kissing children. Got a rude awakening when I was in public with my nephew. He was being cute (as always) so I gave him a kiss on his forehead and cheeks. Someone 'politely' told me that it was weird that I was giving him affection like that and I was just shocked. I felt like if it was a girl they wouldn’t be told off about this.
I don’t care what the public thinks though, my nephew and my new niece are getting all the hugs and kisses from me, the cooler uncle." — UnwitheredKing
"I read a newspaper once that had two articles about teachers having sex with students. The female teacher was on the front page. Her picture was a scantly clad sexy Facebook profile pic. The headline read 'HOT FOR TEACHER?.' The male teacher article was on page 8. Showed his gnarly mugshot and the headline said something along the lines of 'sick child molester deserves a fate worse than death.'" — TheMushroomSpoke
"Not quite what the question is asking, but it irritates me as a father. When I take care of my daughter, doing simple things like feeding her or just skipping down the sidewalk or talking nonsense, people feel a need to tell me I'm 'such a great father' and 'wish there were men like you' like... okay, you obviously have shitty people in your life, I'm doing my job, and it irritates my wife because she does the same thing and everyone just thinks it's normal." — velikost-commander
"Somehow when it comes to kids the mom is more important, one of my good friends is having a rough breakup after his girlfriend of 10+ years went on a retreat with her friends from college. She fu**ed 10+ guys, got pregnant and did not know who, got aggressive when my friend tried to reason with her because of the kids (they have 2, a 4-year-old and a 2-year-old) and hit him hard enough in the face to chip a tooth.
When they separated he filed for custody since, the judge called in favor of her, even after blaming the sex vacation on the copious amounts of drugs she did while she was at the retreat. She seemed a better parent to have sole custody over a boring dude that has a stable job, loves his kids more than anything and even after this whole ordeal did not want to destroy the ex for ruining his life." — Amelsander
"Last Christmas I went to Waddesdon in Oxfordshire (UK) with my family to see the Christmas lights. When we got to the toilets I found that they had changed both male and female toilets to be female and moved men to plastic construction site style portaloos. These had no lights or running water. I was looking to change my infant son's nappy but couldn’t because baby changing facilities were in the toilets. When I complained I was told that one of the portaloos had a plastic shelf I could have used and that it was a 'practical solution to reducing queuing for the female toilets' because they tried adding the toilets for everyone but the women would rather queue up for the real toilets, so their solution was to force men to use them. Just imagine if they had done this the other way around?! I feel sorry for single dads and gay couples with children." — Sharpax
"Calling a child cute. A child was being very playful in the store, and I (19M) mentioned to my friends 'what a cute kid' and they all called me creepy. She was literally playing with a store product and stuffed animal talking in a baby voice. If you think it's creepy to acknowledge that that is cute, then it's not me who's acting creepy." — Supreme_Guardian
"Having zero interest in sport. I'm often asked which team I support by other men who are genuinely surprised that I couldn't care less.
I've worked in an office where all the social events geared towards the men in the office involved sports. I didn't really want to go on a golf day. I can't play golf and didn't want to go along just to make sure that Dave from accounts didn't end up being last like he does every year. I'd rather have joined the ladies who'd decided to have a spa day for their social event. A massage and hot tub are far more appealing than chasing after a ball but I couldn't be bothered with the grief I'd have got if I'd joined them, and I don't think the ladies wanted a man coming on their pamper day. So I ended up staying at the office and answering the phones." — UnfinishedThings