People applaud mom's decision not to invite kids to her wedding after they disregard her feelings

Regardless of their relationships, individuals have their own opinions and feelings that must be respected. u/LegitimateSolution49 shared her story of how her adult kids refused to respect her feelings, prompting her to react accordingly. The 48-year-old woman, who had been married, divorced, and has two children in their late 20s, chose not to invite her kids to her second wedding for valid reasons. Although she doubted her decision, fellow Reddit users supported her.

The mom explained that she divorced her first husband after discovering he was cheating. “The first marriage ended with my husband cheating on me and moving in with his mistress. He offered me a tidy sum to divorce him. I took that money and moved abroad, where I met my now husband,” the woman wrote. While she wanted to keep no contact with her ex, her kids constantly tried to get her to patch up with the husband (also their dad) and his mistress. “They kept trying to make me get along with my ex and his mistress. I was to graciously roll over and accept their disrespect. I have no desire to be friends with my ex and mistress,” she explained.

Despite her wishes, her kids continued to pester her to hang out with them. “They wanted me to be friends with my ex and his mistress. My kids thought I should forgive him and be friends. They went as far as to invite me to lunch or dinner with them and then surprise invited my ex and his mistress,” she recalled. The woman added that there were times her kids would lie about when her ex and mistress were expected to arrive at functions so that she would deliberately bump into them. The mom then chose to avoid contact with her kids as well. “I am not in contact with them, my choice,” she wrote.

She explained that they got to know about her second marriage through relatives and were upset that they weren’t invited. “They cannot handle the fact that he and I are no longer on speaking terms and want us to get along,” the mom explained. She wondered and asked people whether she was wrong for leaving her own kids out of her marriage. However, people supported the woman with the fact that their disrespect called for the decision she took.

u/Maya2661 wrote, “The way your children have behaved towards you so far, I would be worried that they wouldn’t do something wrong at the wedding.” u/1968Phantom added, “Sadly it may take something like what happened to you to happen to them before they understand. Congratulations on your marriage.” u/BendPresent1437 remarked, “Instead of nagging you they should’ve been on your side, their behavior is unjustifiable.” u/louluthekitty exclaimed, “They sound selfish for ambushing you with your ex’s presence and dismissing how you feel.” u/StatisticianNaive277 said, “Your kids need to think their sh*t through before making their mom see their dad and his mistress. Like what the f**k were they thinking?”