A pediatrician and mother of four kids candidly reveals three important parenting rules she has around her house.
Parenting is not an easy job and requires hard work and dedication. So, over time, individuals have come up with rules to make the job of parenting more streamlined and easier. A pediatrician on TikTok who goes by @beachgem10 shared a useful video highlighting her parenting rules. The video has amassed 560.9K views and 519 comments on the social media platform. The post is captioned, "We have three parenting rules in our house and we aren't perfect, but our kids are worth the effort. Emotional regulation is learned!"
The mom kicks off the short clip by revealing how their household had three parenting rules that they went by. She says, "The first one is no questions. If it is not a question, do not pose it as question." What she meant by that is that parents should be more assertive with their kids when doing necessary tasks such as brushing their teeth or putting their shoes on. If they made it sound optional, kids would refuse to comply, making life difficult for the parents. Instead, parents could go for a more assertive approach and that would get things done.
Her second parenting tip was to keep things simple. She explains, "If you're telling a child not to do something, give them a brief explanation. But they do not need a lecture." The mother pointed out how kids had smaller attention spans than modern-day adults and to keep it "short and sweet." This way, parents could discipline their kids without making too much of a fuss, which leads to her final advice for parents, which was to avoid getting too emotional in front of kids.
The woman clarifies, "And that means getting yourself in check, getting your emotions regulated before you approach the child with discipline." She also states how emotional regulation was something that kids picked up on from their parents and how "leading by example" was crucial for a child's emotional well-being. If parents disciplined their kids by yelling at them, they would react similarly to other people when they did something wrong. What parents could do to avoid this kind of behavior was to discipline their kids calmly without any emotional breaks.
She concluded the helpful video by saying, "Our kids are worth it. It's about progress, not perfection." Viewers found the women's parenting rules helpful and wrote their thoughts in the comments section. @_michelle219 said, "My dad always told me. When dealing with kids, be a thermostat, not a thermometer." Another individual, @beauty_qeen.93, shared, "Your number 1 has helped the parent/child relationship in my house!!! There's less attitude/back talk on both sides!"
@beachgem10 We have three parenting rules in our house and we aren’t perfect, but our kids are worth the effort. Emotional regulation is learned! #parenting #rules #emotionalregulation ♬ original sound - Beachgem10
@thoseadventures360 commented, "I need to apply this concept. I just became a caretaker to my mother, who's had different medical issues the past three years with dementia." It seemed that emotional regulation was something a lot of parents struggled with. @rainbowfox_85 revealed, "I had trouble with emotional regulation when my kids were younger because that's all I saw. I had to train myself. It was hard, but I was proud of myself."
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This article originally appeared 8 months ago.