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New mom acknowledges the postpartum privilege she has had and takes a stand against 'bitter' sister

The new mom, who was warned about postpartum depression, was lucky enough to have a supportive family to ride it out smoothly.

New mom acknowledges the postpartum privilege she has had and takes a stand against 'bitter' sister
Representative Cover Image Source: (L) Pexels | Yan Krukau, (R) Reddit| u/Fearless_Welder3894

Motherhood is an incredibly subjective journey, one that often entails challenges and emotional roller coasters. Postpartum depression is a very real aspect of this experience. However, it's crucial to remember that with support, it can get better. Becoming a parent frequently comes with a well-worn narrative, a kind of universal script that predicts exhaustion, sleepless nights, mountains of laundry, and the relentless cycle of diaper changes, all while navigating the emotional highs and lows of caregiving. Yet, in a recent account shared by u/Fearless_Welder3894, a new mother challenged this prevailing notion.

Image Source: Pexels | Amina Filkins
Image Source: Pexels | Amina Filkins

She talks about how her husband and in-laws made her postpartum journey smooth by being extremely supportive. However, she found herself in a clash with her older sister, Jennie, a mother of three, who had consistently warned her about the perils of postpartum depression and the relentless strain it would place on her marriage. But this new mother's postpartum experience proved to be quite different. She discovered herself in an extraordinary situation, one filled with both practical and emotional support from her husband and his family. She openly acknowledged her privilege in this context, understanding that her journey was unique, especially when compared to mothers in the United States.

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Her husband hailed from a culture where women were traditionally pampered and exempt from household chores during the first year postpartum. For her initial two months post-birth, her sole focus was her daughter, with her husband and his family attending to everything else. Her husband even took a two-month parental leave to be by her side. Meals were prepared, and their home was maintained by his family, as this was considered the norm in their culture. The contrast between her experience and that of her sister, especially in the American context, was stark.

Image Source: Pexels | Amina Filkins
Image Source: Pexels | Amina Filkins

A simple conversation with Jennie about preparing her husband's favorite meal upon his return from a business trip led to a startling comment from her sister. Jennie remarked that for her, such actions were a normal part of being a mother and wife, but for the new mother, they seemed like a mere pastime. In response, the new mother defended her position, emphasizing that not struggling constantly didn't diminish her role as a mother.

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She confronted her sister, suggesting that her comments stemmed from jealousy and bitterness, and she had no intention of apologizing for her less arduous journey. However, her sister's reaction, as relayed to their brother, was one of surprise at the new mother's perceived harshness. It appeared that Jennie was struggling to comprehend why her sister's life seemed easier in comparison. On Reddit, people recognized that the contrasting postpartum experiences of these two women reflected broader issues within American society.

Image Source: Pexels | Sarah  Chai
Image Source: Pexels | Sarah Chai

u/amidtheprimalthings eloquently articulated, "Your sister is suffering the effects of living in a society that is pro-birth: not pro-child, pro-mother, pro-community, or pro-mutual aid. She’s angry and upset at the way the system has failed her without recognizing that it is the system that failed her - not you - and she’s lashing out at you because it hurts to see you receiving the support that every woman inherently wants (and deserves) postpartum."

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The prevailing societal expectation that motherhood should equate to perpetual suffering and stress was challenged by many on the platform. The cultural practices of the new mother's husband were seen as commendable and reflective of how things should ideally be when welcoming a new life into a family.

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