People name 25 social customs we should retire for good
These constructive and insightful answers definitely give us a lot to think about.
A number of social norms today hide and perpetuate harmful practices in the name of tradition. These have survived through decades and centuries of civilization without much opposition as many tend to quietly accept them out of fear of being ostracized or deemed disruptive by their community. However, if given the chance, most individuals could name at least a few social customs they'd like to see put to rest forever. Twitter user @ewgraiam sparked this conversation on social media recently when he asked netizens in a now-viral tweet what social norms they think we need to retire.
what social customs do we need to retire? pic.twitter.com/dZ9pkdrlyS
— g. 🇹🇹 (@ewgraiam) September 25, 2021
The tweet garnered over 6k responses in a few days. They ranged from problematic parenting practices to customs rooted in racism and a lack of awareness for mental health. These constructive and insightful answers definitely give us a lot to think about and could hopefully be the beginning of the end for some of these norms. Here are 25 of the most responses:
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Telling children they automatically have to respect adults because they're are an adult. This is how b get taken advantage of & abused
— PiscesTwice (@pre_richie) September 27, 2021
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Using white people as the standard of classy/professional behavior https://t.co/asA8YrjFeS
— Brokey Robinson (@HennyHardaway96) September 27, 2021
3.
Asking people how they're doing when you're not actually prepared to hear, and respond accordingly to, an honest answer. https://t.co/aNzr8WTYHF
— Emasculation Proclamation (@angryblkhoemo) September 27, 2021
4.
not allowing employees to have dyed hair, piercings, tattoos, nails, natural hair, makeup etc https://t.co/wkv1QUWbfc
— ً (@BIizzed) September 27, 2021
5.
Old people thinking they could say or do anything to you just cause they old https://t.co/hih17dcWx5
— Suga Water (@OnlyHanz_) September 26, 2021
6.
Invalidating kids feelings and opinions because youre an adult https://t.co/P1dmlE53d4
— OkSach (@CashMom__) September 26, 2021
7.
Medicines like DayQuil that promote working while sick rather than resting. https://t.co/ncF90HCLkB
— George M Johnson (@IamGMJohnson) September 29, 2021
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Levelling womanly labels or pronouns at a man as a form of insult.
— Kim Berly (@KimeeBe) September 27, 2021
10.
Yes, this. You spend their entire childhood showing them that their preferences for who touches them doesn't matter as much as someone else's expectation that they should be allowed to touch, and then suddenly expect them to understand consent at age 16/18/21?
— Eunice S Hung (@Eunice_Serina) September 28, 2021
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Forcing introverts to be more extroverted. https://t.co/3CDskIL9Ae
— uɐɯǝıɥɔooƆ 👻 (@emalansi) October 2, 2021
13.
"please change men are in the house" https://t.co/8qkK3MFqQF
— Feminist Love Notes (@FemmeLoveNotes) September 27, 2021
14.
Cashiers standing for their whole shift. https://t.co/Y4jmTC6J01
— JOE$TAR ₆⁶₆ ⁷ (@SLUTTKUNA) September 29, 2021
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Shaming single mothers for raising their children, instead of the absentee fathers who abandoned them. https://t.co/Q57PMxI0tC
— Platform for #Divested #BW (@DivestHub) September 27, 2021
17.
being the bigger person when someone has done horrendously nasty things to you just to not look like the villain even tho you aren't. having emotions isn't immature. https://t.co/GrQr99lsdH
— nefertiti 🦋✨ (@jnyia_) September 29, 2021
18.
not being able to talk about menstruation in front of men https://t.co/hokk3KKfgK
— 👽 (@psychenaki) September 28, 2021
19.
-The concept of virginity as a damn whole
— SieGlizz❄️ (@sieglizzyyy) September 29, 2021
- Men policing women’s body counts because it’s “different” for men
- Women have to be innocent but can’t be boring in bed
- There’s something wrong with you if you don’t want kids
- That as a woman you need a man to be successful https://t.co/VqcKXHo0yi
20.
mens + womens clothing... they're just fucking clothes https://t.co/cPpSoCXPwD
— Zuhura (@oooohyeaaa) September 27, 2021
21.
Tipping at restaurants. Instead, waiters and waitresses should be paid an actual living wage so they don't have to rely on the kindness of random strangers https://t.co/Us0CaxuTlD
— Plat @ The Master's Vision (@PlatinumRevol) September 27, 2021
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Telling boys not to cry and to “suck it up” https://t.co/Ndh65CoHiK
— alex🥷🖤 (@2000Alweaver) September 27, 2021
23.
The idea that it’s rude not to respond to someone you don’t know.
— Early Autumnal Old God (@HanabiDrift) September 27, 2021
This idea of “common courtesy” is often weaponised in a way that allows people to be made to feel guilty when being harassed, ESPECIALLY women and femmes.
If someone don’t wanna chat to you leave them alone. https://t.co/JvhL871KXn
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teaching kids that sex is dirty and we should be ashamed of having sexual desires instead of teaching us how to be safe during/before/after https://t.co/gowR0SSpZw
— ✿ (@sadbigtittygf) September 27, 2021
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Labelling everything as God's will, especially traumatic events. https://t.co/f5k2SCPDd3
— Slim Slimma (@sueainX) September 26, 2021
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