Mothers stand up for a mom being judged for yelling at her child at the park: 'You are not perfect'

Mothers are always at the end of receiving criticism from people who do not understand the pressure they are constantly put under. Recently, Mario Mirante—who goes on TikTok by @mariomirante—posted a video narrating an incident he witnessed in a public park. He said he saw a mom stuck on her phone while walking her son, who was trying to grab her attention. Mirante elaborated that after a point, the mother yelled at the kid "like a velociraptor" and admitted that he judged the mother based on that. He also went a step forward to dismiss all excuses anyone made for the mother on his video. It caused a surge in TikTok moms making videos responding to the Mirante.

Abby, a mother—who goes on TikTok by @itsme_abbye—was one of the first people to speak up against the man's baseless argument. She says in her viral video, "If you have never been a parent or specifically a default parent, AKA mom, I don't think it's wise to come on the internet and start shaming a mom." She further explained why she said so, "Because if you have never been the default parent, and you don't know what it's like to be constantly needed all day, every day if you're not the one consistently and constantly regulating your child's emotional needs while also having to regulate your own, which also likely means that you're having to relearn how to do that because you weren't taught that as a child. I think it's wise if you pipe down." She sums it up by saying that witnessing sixty seconds of someone's life cannot give you a complete understanding of their situation.

Another mother, Elizabeth Ward—who goes on TikTok by @diaryofanhonestmom—also gave her opinion on the matter. However, she chose a more empathetic route. She explained that she had a mother who consistently yelled at her. She resonates with the man's video and states, "I could feel the rage in this guy's video. If you watch to the end, you see that the reason he's triggered is that he grew up with a mother who was probably like that, and we are allowed to say that it sucked and it wasn't fair and it is not healthy."

While she agrees that yelling at kids is not model behavior, she also acknowledges that neither is shaming them without knowing the whole story. She concluded by asking the man to do the work he needs to do to feel better. While trauma is not one's fault, healing sure is their responsibility.

Nicki Marie, another mom—who goes on TikTok by @nickiunplugged— chose to give the woman the benefit of the doubt. She said that she could do so because she used to be one of those mothers. However, deciding what kind of a mother someone is based on sixty seconds makes no sense. "So, he defined their entire life based on that one moment that he saw. Can you imagine? There is no such thing as one moment defining a mother and child," she states.

While stating the reason as to why she is willing to give this mom the benefit of the doubt, she addresses the comment section and says: "I wanna believe that 'cause I've been that mom too, and I'm here to say, with the comment section, you are not all perfect. I am not perfect, but I'm a good f*cking mom and I sometimes flip out on my kids."

While there is no debate over the fact that yelling at a child is not healthy, there are other variables present in the scenario. Completely ignoring those variables is not fair. That being said, seeing so many mothers take a stand for a fellow mother they don't even know shows that it is time to rein in the snap judgments and exhibit more empathy.