It is important to teach our kids the value of human sentiments over money to turn them into kind people.
Kids learn what they see happening around them. When you show kids by your example that one must value human sentiments and intentions over materialistic things, only then will they learn that. In a recent video posted by a mother who goes by Carlee (@carleediy) on TikTok, she spoke about a recent comment she received on one of the videos. In the comment. The mother said that she wouldn't let anyone who was going to get a $5 or $10 gift for her kids birthday come at all.
Carlee begins the video by exclaiming how this opinion, according to her, is the worst take on something. She says, "So you're telling parents not to bring their kids to your kid's birthday party if they're only going to bring a five or $10 gift." The reason she's so appalled by this is because she is thinking about the kid's peril. She says, "How sad for your kid that their friend might not show up to their birthday party because they can't afford more than $10?" This point of view is something a parent must think about.
However, she also goes on to empathize with the parents on the fact that parties are expensive, irrespective of whether they're at home or a venue because food and cake cost money too - hundreds of dollars. However, to expect to receive 300 bucks worth of gifts for your kid if you're spending 300 bucks on your kid's birthday party doesn't make sense and is not fair at all. She says, "I kind of get the thought process but like that's not the right attitude to have like you should be throwing your kid a birthday and like expecting them to get the same amount in gifts in return."
She then goes back to talking about how this thought process can make a kid unhappy too. She explains by saying, "But how sad for your kid if people don't show up because they know that you're expecting them to at least bring a $30 gift, $50 gift and like, they tell their kid, oh, we can't afford that." If a kid on average gets invited to 30 parties a year, they can't possibly be willing to spend $30 to $50 on each kid if that's just not affordable. Plus, kids honestly just want their friends to come. Gifts don't matter as much. And if gifts are this important to a kid, then there are other things a parent must be worried about and work on.
@chelenwhis said, "I could care less if my child got no gift from who was invited. He just loves the company." @shell.manicured said, "People expecting gifts to cover the guests 'share' of event costs is a mindset I don’t understand. Throw the party you can afford. Gifts are just a bonus." @countrykidscarseatsafety said, "We always do, 'No gifts please, your presence is plenty!' We just want you to show up, eat, play, and have fun with us! We never want somebody to skip it due to budget."