The mom-of-two shared how she got stuck with some really unconventional titles despite hoping her kids would address her by something cute and adorable.
Many women face a never-ending stream of "Mom!" or "Mama!" calls throughout the day and night. For most women, this name becomes a badge of honor and an integral part of their identity. Using these traditional titles helps establish a clear parent-child relationship, reinforcing each party's roles and responsibilities. It also instills a sense of honor and recognition for the sacrifices and care that parents provide. Addressing them in this manner can strengthen the emotional bond between parents and children, emphasizing the significance of the parent's role in shaping their children's lives.
However, parenting isn't a "one size fits all" phenomenon and hence some parents prefer to let their children decide how they'd like to address them. This can sometimes have hilariously adorable results as once they've made a decision, there's no going back. Stacey Green (@staceygreenliving) shared a video on TikTok, lamenting that she allowed her son to choose her title, and now she's stuck with a name she's not thrilled with.
She begins the video by saying, "My wife and I have a son together and one of the most common questions that we got at the beginning was, 'What's he going to call you? You're not both going to be a mom because that's wicked confusing." They both decided to let the kid choose. Initially, her son addressed her as "Mummy" and her wife as "Mama," which seemed manageable.
Unfortunately, the chosen names evolved into a more formal version, and he now addresses her as "Mummy Stacey." This development has left her feeling unhappy about the chosen name, as it feels too formal and distant, almost like they are in a business meeting rather than sharing a close mother-son bond.
She continued to express her disdain for the name, saying, "It's like we're at a business meeting. Like, we're not peers, bro." Despite her efforts to change her son's choice, Stacey admits that she has been unable to break his habit of calling her "Mummy Stacey." She humorously adds that her 15-year-old calls her "brah," which she finds amusing but still prefers to be called "Mummy" by her younger child. Reflecting on her experience, Stacey advises others against letting their children choose their names, cautioning that it could backfire.
In the comments section, other queer parents shared their experiences regarding how they decided on names and labels when there were multiple moms or dads in the family. Many revealed that the decision was ultimately not up to them; instead, it was determined by what felt comfortable and natural to their children. This collective input highlights the diverse ways families navigate these naming dynamics, with a common theme being that children often gravitate toward names and labels that feel right for them personally, regardless of parental intentions. @trippinbillies shared, "I am always flabbergasted when my children address me by my government name. Why? For what reason? How do you even know that name?"