Mother explains why it's important for grown women to let teen and tween girls be themselves

Every mother believes she knows what is good for her kid, especially for her daughter. It also applies to every woman who thinks that she can prevent the little girls in her life from repeating the same mistakes as her. However, that's not okay because making these mistakes is a part of their journey, which they will learn on their own. That's what this mother on TikTok, Monica Grace Brady–who goes by @midwesternmama29–said in a recent video she posted on the platform. 

Brady began her video by giving a disclaimer about how even though venting wasn't something she did on social media a lot, today would be an exception. She wasted no time and came straight to the point and said that what she wanted to vent about was the fact that grown women are constantly putting judgment and hate onto teen and tween girls, especially tween girls who are from 10 to 13 years in age. 

Brady said, "They are trying to figure out who they are, okay? It's a very hard transition." She also adds how a lot of these tween girls are also hitting puberty, starting their periods, or just learning how to shave. The last thing these girls need during this transitional phase when they are neither kids nor adults is more insecurities than they already have. 

She says how appalling it is to see grown women going online and judging these girls for things as insignificant as a Stanley Cup, leggings, or even their skincare routine. Because let's be honest, these things are quite harmless in the bigger picture. Brady also calls out these older women by reminding them that when they were tween girls, all they wanted to do was look like Britney Spears and hope their mothers would sign waivers for them to get tan. She explains how those tans they wanted as children resulted in skin cancer, whereas the skincare routine tweens today follow, which includes retinol, will only probably make their skin barriers a little weaker. She adds, "All I'm saying is, in the grand scheme of things, it's not a big deal."

She sternly adds that grown women need to leave these girls alone as they are already going through enough. While talking about the rebuttals she often comes across in her comment section, she says how most women say they aren't judging the kids but their mothers. To which she promptly asks why it is always only the mother who is blamed and never the dad. She says, "Everything is always the mom's fault. You'll never see songs being talked about what they wanna wear, whether they want a PS5 when they're nine. Like nobody cares about that, but it's a huge deal when a 9-year-old wants a Stanley."

She adds how she is tired of women putting women down. She urges women to worry about their songs instead of getting onto social media to say horrible things about her daughter. She says that if someone tells anything demeaning about her daughter, she will call them out and quiet them.

She also advises people by saying, "So what I'm going to encourage people to do in 2024, myself included, is to just be kind." She further says, "Only keep things that are good to your life. That includes me. Like, if I'm not bringing good to your life, just delete me and don't follow me. Don't leave nasty comments about my kids in my comment section because I'm done taking it." She ends her video by saying, "Let's just be kinder to each other and stop worrying about things that don't directly affect us and we will just be happier people. Happy New Year and I love you all!" 

Her clip garnered much praise from people. @sbdp21 said, "Amen!! Puberty is mentally and physically exhausting. Such an awkward phase for everyone!!" @anxiety_cleaning_therapy said, "Well said! We should be straightening each other's crowns, not knocking them off!"