Mother's 'bathroom rule' allows children to have a few minutes of freedom in which they can verbalize all their emotions.
Being emotionally and physically healthy is like winning half the war of adulthood. One can begin the journey towards physical fitness at almost any age, but emotional well-being needs to be shaped right from childhood. To achieve this, parents should create a safe space for their children to communicate their feelings, where children know that no matter what they are feeling, from love, anger, frustration to anxiety, there is a way for them to vent it out without being judged. Kylee Brindley—who goes by @_kyleebrindley on TikTok—has created a method in which her children can process their emotions in whatever way they please. Even though her boy couldn't exactly nail it on the first try, it is safe to say with adolescence approaching, it is going to come in handy.
The video begins with Brindley taking her son to the bathroom, where she has already fitted a camera to monitor him after she leaves. The name she has given to the setup is "bathroom rule." "If you ever feel like you need to say bad words or flip the bird or anything, you have to come in the bathroom," the mother explains. "Shut the door and you can say all the bad words you want." It ensures that the boy can verbalize his feelings but, at the same time, is not "causing a scene" with his display, helping him to figure out compartmentalization. Through this "rule," the boy would be able to understand that there are places where a particular behavior can fly, but in others, it is non-permissible.
Even though she gives her child the free reins, parenting does not go out of the window in this method. The camera is a good idea as she can monitor the boy's well-being and also he is not saying something that crosses a line or is against their values. They will only interfere if something happens in the bathroom. This is a "rule" also for the parents as it is for the children. They have to be as hands-off as possible until the situation demands it.
The freedom imparts a sense of independence that can go a long way for the boy's future. After explaining to the boy all the rules, the mother leaves the bathroom. She says, "So you can stand right here. I'll go out for two minutes and you can do whatever you want and then I'll come back." Brindley also placed him in a spot where she could keep an eye on him from the outside.
The adorable boy clearly had nothing to vent out just yet. He just flipped the bird a few times and began dancing with his hands up. Having nothing else in the tank, he decided to call back his mother. He sweetly informed her, "I didn't really do good." The mother made it clear to him that this rule was made for his good. He did not need to adhere to it if he didn't want to. It is completely his choice.
The comment section loved the idea. @jazzyj018 shared her experience with the "bathroom rule" and wrote, "I did this with my kids. My daughter was in the bathroom repeating the F word for like 2 minutes then came out happy as could be." @kristinacorvin applauded the mother for creating this method and commented, "I love this, giving them a safe place to vent their frustrations without hurting anyone's feelings."