This actress and life coach is sharing a special kind of parenting hack that she used to bond with her kids when they were younger.
There are several parenting hacks on the rise and you might spot a handful of them as soon as you log in to your social media page. "The Facts of Life" star Lisa Whelchel happens to be one of those moms who has made up a new parenting hack for herself to deal with her kids in a better way. Whelchel recently appeared on "Haven! Podcast" which is hosted by her daughter Haven Cauble. Whelchel was quizzed about a special time she used to spend with her kids during their childhood to bond with them.
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In the particular clip that was shared on TikTok, the mom, actress and life coach shared her parenting tactic which she has dubbed "window time." “Life was very busy with three children so close together. So, I really wanted to make sure that I had one-on-one time with each of you,” Whelchel explained in the podcast clip. She noted that bedtime was the best hour to bond with her kids and let them open up more to her as they did not want to go to sleep. As a result, her kids would end up chatting with her, discussing how their day went.
Even though their bedtime was stalled, Whelchel managed to use it to her advantage and get better insights into her kids' lives. “I discovered that the nighttime is when the kids are stalling. They don't want to go to bed. And so after bath and teeth brushing and pajamas, each child was able to lay in their bed and read a book while I spent at least 15 minutes when you were little, longer as you got older with each child. I called it ‘window time’ because it really was the most possibility for the window of your soul,” Whelchel continued.
“The day was done. You were open. You didn't want to go to sleep and you were looking forward to this time. And because it was every night you knew that you could count on having one-on-one time with me,” the actress revealed. The "window time" also provided a good opportunity for her children to open up to their mother about anything that has been bothering them without the fear of getting judged or interrupted.
“You would save up something that you wanted to talk to me about if it was exciting and you didn't want your siblings in the middle of it or if it was something that was a little scary or confusing,” Cauble reminded Whelchel. “So, I would ask what was your high of the day? What was your low of the day? Were there any questions that came up that you wanted to ask? Was there anything you wanted to confess?”
“And I wanted to teach you that confession felt good and it's actually better because you knew I wasn't going to punish you. I was going to celebrate your confession and it was another way of just kind of staying clean from the day,” Whelchel concluded. Fellow parents on TikTok loved the idea of using the moments before bedtime to chat freely with their kids and solidify their trust and respect in one another.
@sprout0811 wrote: "Yes! we just call it cuddles and as someone whose mother never had the time of day for me, it's been so healing." @carydanielle quipped: "My kids don’t remember any parts of their day until before bedtime. It’s nice to have this time with each of my babies." @mamaannette added: "This is so good. I am going to start this tomorrow. Bedtime is always so rushed for us but it needs to change." @stephee28 shared: "I absolutely love this! I didn’t have something so routine with my mom but we did have what we called confession sessions randomly throughout life."