Mom wore white to daughter’s civil wedding, apologized, and promised not to repeat it — then showed up to the church ceremony in light beige
'My mom is wearing a 100% white dress with a red belt.'
Wedding etiquette should be followed, especially if a bride wishes for it. u/Glittering_Log_9421 shared three photos to show what her mother wore to her uncle's wedding, her civil wedding, and her church wedding. After she saw what her mother wore to her civil wedding, she had a conversation with her mom about what she could and couldn't wear to the church wedding. But when her mom showed up on the big day, the color she picked pushed the limits. The post was shared on May 27, 2026, and it had 10,000 upvotes and 1,100 comments.
Confused or an accident?
The author was Argentinian, and her husband was American. In her culture, white was believed to be the bride's color. The author attached three photos. In the first one, at the author's uncle's wedding, "My mom is wearing a 100% white dress with a red belt," she explained. She had been thinking about her mom's color choice at her uncle's wedding, but she convinced herself her mother was confused or that it was an accident.
Beige and brown
According to the author, her mother wore an all-white outfit to the civil wedding. The author didn't want a repetition of the same situation at her church wedding that was a month and a half away, so she asked her mother not to wear white. "She understood. She said sorry. [She] said that when she goes shopping... the most beautiful and formal clothing was always white, and she liked white clothes the most." But she promised to find something suitable for her daughter's church wedding. Finally, when the day came, her mother showed up in a light beige blouse with brown trousers. The author pointed out that the color was "pushing the limits" because it was a few shades away from white. More than a month after the church wedding, the author was still thinking about the outfit.
Not for the guests
There are certain wedding traditions people still hold on to. A YouGov survey on wedding etiquette conducted from November 6 - 8, 2023, among 1000 U.S. respondents, found that 25% considered it usually inappropriate for wedding guests to wear white, while 33% considered it always inappropriate.
Find mom a stylist
Some commenters focused on how casual the outfits looked, while others questioned whether her mother had respected the request. u/rosebudny commented, "Aside from her wearing white, she’s dressed like she’s going to play tennis or run errands, not go to a wedding." u/Which_way_witcher added, "Oh no, that's awful. The fact that you brought up the concern and she did it again. Anyways, means it's done on purpose. Does she like being the center of attention? I'm sorry your mother is like that."
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