Mom-to-be talks about 11 boomer parenting philosophies she totally agrees with

Parenting is in no way an easy feat. It includes a lot of work and responsibility. Besides, it's not only parents' commitment towards their child but also society's to make a child who grows up to become a decent adult. In a video posted by Teresa Kaye Newman, a teacher and mother-to-be who goes by @teresakayenewman on TikTok, she shared 11 things boomers believed when it came to raising kids and how she plans to raise her kid with these boomer parenting philosophies. Before she begins the video, she gives a disclaimer as to the three kinds of comments she won't entertain or respond to. One being, "I'm a boomer or my parents were boomers and they didn't do any of these things and I turned out just fine." The second is, "I'm not a boomer and I do these things. How dare you accuse younger parents of not doing them." And lastly, "The classic - just wait until your kid is born. You'll change your mind on some of these things." 

The first thing on the list is that she plans not to have her kid have an iPad. She explains neither she nor her husband has one, so buying a personal iPad for the kid makes no sense. She says, "All I'm gonna say is my kid has a whole world to explore and none of that has to do with being stuck in front of a tablet." The second thing she agrees with boomers is that she isn't going to let her child have a smartphone until they're at least in high school. She doesn't wish for her kid to have a smartphone until they understand the basic concept of internet safety. She says that if she needs to communicate with her kid, she would probably give them a brick phone or a flip phone.

The third thing on her list is teaching her kids the value of education. She doesn't want her kids to believe that education is only a means to financial freedom but a means to learn different aspects of life. She says, "But I refuse to raise a child that is illiterate and is ignorant to how the world works." In the fourth point, she says that she will teach her kids to respect their teachers irrespective of whether or not they're good at their jobs or if the kid likes them as a human being.

The fifth thing she plans to teach her kids from a young age is to be kind to the elderly. It in no way means allowing yourself to walk all over merely because the person across is an older stranger. What it does mean is to hold the door open for an older man, help someone older cross the road or give up your seat in local transportation if an elderly person is standing. She says, "He will not treat very old people like worthless human beings, disposable human beings."

In the sixth thing, she says she will teach her kid to say "Yes ma'am/No ma'am" and teach it well. Be it a sir or ma'am or whatever is the pronoun the person across prefers - being consistently respectful is the only way you'll be respectful. Mentioning everyone included in the list, she said, "That includes service industry workers. That includes retail workers. That includes folks older than him that includes folks younger than him."

The seventh thing is to ensure that kids learn to say basic pleasantries like thank you, sorry, excuse me, please, you're welcome, etc., since they're full of gratitude. In the eighth thing, she says she plans to punish her kids for bad behavior just like she would reward them for good behavior. She believes both to be equally good and important for the well-rounded growth of a kid. For instance, "If they're being a bully at school or not being nice to their friends, they don't get to hang out with their friends on the weekends." They have to stay home with their parents instead.

The ninth thing is to teach kids to know their place in society and to be respectful to the adults in the room. It's simple things like teaching kids not to interrupt when two adults are talking so that they don't turn into adults who are inconsiderate about other people. She says the tenth point is vital for her because she's having a boy. It is to ensure that your kid knows that they need to clean their messes.

While explaining the reason, she says, "That's because when my son turns into an adult, I want him to be a partner or a spouse or a roommate, even that someone is proud to have around and not a burden to somebody else." The eleventh and last tip is to have a strict bedtime for as long as her kid stays with her - no matter his age. She says that today's normalized culture of sleeping late is extremely unhealthy and honestly, she isn't wrong.

She ends her video by saying that while these things are not exclusive to boomer parents, she has undoubtedly seen fewer parents do this. @nguyen_ner101 said, "The 'can't say no' to a child rule is an awful rule parents have started implementing. Teach your kids consequences and rejection early on." And honestly, that makes sense.