The mother-of-two also penned a powerful Facebook post highlighting why the only thing that matters is letting your child know that they are loved exactly as they are.
Editor's Note: This article was originally published on May 26, 2020
A mom's heartwarming gesture of acceptance and love for her child had peoples hearts overflowing with warm and gushy feelings. Zoe Lynn threw an adorable gender reveal for her 6-year-old trans daughter. Sharing photographs from the ceremony on Facebook, Lynn penned a powerful post detailing the many emotions and internal struggles they went through to get to this point. Although it was a shared journey for the family, this mother-of-two highlights that the only thing that mattered through it all was letting her daughter know that she is loved exactly as she is.
I'll admit. I've fallen short on understanding the journey of different groups of people. Over the years, I've tried to educate myself about the LGBTQ Community and the struggles they've faced. I like to think I'm empathetic. That I'm open-minded, Lynn began. At two my child requested a princess dress and without blinking it was in the shopping cart. Their bedroom was half cars and half baby dolls and princesses. They liked singing and performing so we signed them up for musical theatre and when the teacher said: "oh the boy costumes are over here!" They didn't flinch, pointed to a purple princess dress, and said "that's ok I want that one!"
Lynn explained that neither she nor her partner Cory have ever taken issue with their child's choices as they do not believe clothes, colors or toys have genders. They've made sure to raise their children without placing such outdated gender constraints on them and have always all choices open for them. Although Lynn believed they were providing their kids an open-minded and loving home to grow up carefree, in September last year, she realized that her child was going through a tough time.
In September, while pulling in the car line to pick up my tiny human Cory called me. "Just so you know, this morning, Colton said 'my life didn't turn out the way I planned. I think I should just stab myself in the throat.'" And oh my god. I have never felt a worse feeling in my body. How. How can a 5-year-old who doesn't even know a fraction of what the world is or what life or death is even think like that??? Did we do something?? How do we fix it??? she recounted.
I called the pediatrician, psychologists, friends. I went into panic mom mode from the school parking lot. And then I paused. Pulled up to the school and got my baby in the car, Lynn continued. "Colton - daddy told me something that made me sad. He said your life didn't turn out the way you planned? What does that mean? What didn't turn out the way you planned?" she asked her little one. "It's a secret. I can't tell you," the 5-year-old replied. "Ok. Well, that makes mommy feel worried and I really want to help you if I can. Can you tell me what didn't turn out the way you planned?" Lynn coaxed.
“That child knows who they are, so listen to them.”— Human Rights Campaign (@HRC) April 6, 2020
If you’re a parent starting your journey, parents of transgender and non-binary youth have a message for you. pic.twitter.com/gK7I1bnI31
Squirming in their seat, visibly bashful and nervous - my little kindergartener said, clear as day, "I was supposed to be a girl but I'm a boy. So I think I should just stab myself in the throat," Lynn recalled. And as open-minded and knowledgeable and empathetic as I thought I was - as much as I believed in breaking gender roles and stereotypes - I was not prepared. But we drove 30 minutes to the GAP and we went dress shopping. And the whole way there I told her about how she CAN be a girl. That people feel the way she does. That we have friends and family that were born and people thought they were one way but they always felt another. And I swear there was a little lightbulb of hope that went off in her brain, she wrote.
“Love your child.— The View (@TheView) May 6, 2020
Listen to your child.
Accept your child.”
After her 12-year-old stepdaughter Zaya came out as transgender, @itsgabrielleu shares her advice to parents going through similar. https://t.co/f8u2wbJuik pic.twitter.com/X1pwyk02Nl
We went to Barnes and Noble and bought every book I could find (there were unfortunately only 3) and we read them that night. And a week later sitting on my bed, quietly reading one of the stories to herself she said, "mom. Thanks so much for teaching me about transgender. It really made me feel like I’m not alone." And y'all. Please don't get me wrong. I've CRIED over this. I fell in love with a baby boy for years and had to let that go. I had to mourn the memories of naming my child and the "boy" things she will probably spend the rest of her life trying to forget, Lynn revealed. I cried because I KNOW that my child's life is going to be so SO much harder than other kids' lives now. I cried because I know I didn't understand before and now so many other people who didn't understand are going to target their lack of understanding at my baby.
But then I stopped crying. Because as much as I feel I’ve struggled, it will be so much harder for her. And while we already have a few people in our lives who are vocally unsupportive - we have an INCREDIBLE, AMAZING group of people that have never made her feel more loved, she wrote. Lynn concluded her post by introducing the world to her beloved daughter. So, as the proud mommy of a six-year-old girl, I'd like to introduce you to my daughter, Avery.