Mom stands up for daughter sent home for dress code violation as her outfit was 'distracting to boys'

Dress codes serve the purpose of maintaining a certain level of decorum and professionalism in various settings, including schools. However, there have been increasing instances where schools end up taking things too far with dress codes, leaving students and parents frustrated. Shasty Leah, who goes by @its_shastys on TikTok, posted a video expressing her anger against her daughter's school after they sent her back home for apparently violating their dress code. The video has become popular on the site with 2.7 million views and 15K comments.

She begins the video by sharing how her daughter had been sent home at 1 in the afternoon for a dress code violation. Leah quickly highlights how the school only had an hour and a half left till the shift was over, but they still chose to send her daughter back home. "My child is wearing a shirt much like I'm wearing, but hers is brown. Identical shirts. Hers doesn't have buttons, it's just a round neck, it goes all the way till her neck bone," she says. The woman also shares that the girl was wearing blue jeans and not leggings in school.

What frustrates the mom the most is that the school deemed her dress to be a "distraction" for the boys. Leah reflects on how such rules condition boys to believe that girls are "sexual play toys" if they dress in a certain way. She says, "But we're not teaching boys that you don't have a right to put your hands on any girl. You don't have a right to call her anything outside her God-given name." The woman then goes on to highlight the hypocrisy of the entire situation in the context of dress codes at most schools. 

"If dress code violations are really a thing and we are really concerned about, cheerleading uniforms would not be as such. The volleyball uniforms would not just be practically underwear." Leah expresses how most teachers wear dresses that many would consider inappropriate for school but somehow such things are not taken into consideration by school authorities. The woman was quite angry at how things were with society. 

She says, "It's 2024. We've got to do better as a society." Leah insisted that a girl's dress should have nothing to do with what boys think or feel. She also happens to be a mother to four boys and shares that she has taught all of them not to sexualize women. The woman concludes the video by saying, "Control your emotions, control your thoughts, control your impulses. Okay? Before someone fixes it permanently for you." 

Many people on the platform also faced the same problem with dress codes at schools and shared their opinions about it in the comments section. @ravonna82 said, "When the school calls about dress code violations, I really want to know more about the adult who's been staring and having a problem with it." @sassylooksbycat shared a hilarious incident, saying, "My school tried banning leggings. Big mistake. BIG. All the boys showed up for three days wearing leggings in protest." 

You can follow Shasty Leah (@its_shastys) on her TikTok page for more lifestyle content.

Editor's note: This article was originally published on March 14, 2024. It has since been updated.