'When I was trying to get pregnant with my second, we had three miscarriages and I was getting so anxious about the growing age gap,' she shared.
There is always a debate among parents about what is the ideal number of years one should leave between kids. Some like it to be two years because then they are around the same age, while others prefer to leave a few more years between one child and the next. TikTok user, @kaitlinklimmer, weighed in on the matter and revealed that she believes 4 years is the perfect age gap between kids and she has a point. "Unpopular opinion but having a 4-year age gap between your kids is the best," she says in the video.
She goes on to share that she had three miscarriages after her first child. "When I was trying to get pregnant with my second we had three miscarriages and I was getting so anxious about the growing age gap between them and now we're on the other side of that I think the 4 year age gap is like unreal and I would choose it every time," Kaitlin says in the video.
The mother then gave an example of how it works well for them. "I just got finished putting my 16-month-old down for a nap and we always lie with our kids until they're asleep so I was lying with her and I fell asleep also. I woke up 20 minutes later just not at all concerned about what my 5-year-old was up to," she explains.
"She's 5, she can hang out for half an hour by herself," she adds. When Kaitlin went to check on her 5-year-old, she found her completely unbothered by her mother's brief absence. "She was just making her birthday invitations for her birthday... that's in August... it's just so nice," concludes Kaitlin.
The video went viral with more than 213k views and is captioned, "2 under 2 just ain't for me." Many on social media agreed with what the mom shared. @samanthaneedscoffee commented, "I feel like it's a very popular opinion. I think 2 under 2 is the unpopular one lol." @jadeweigel pointed out, "I don't think an age gap determines how close siblings will be. It's personality, communication, how well the entire family gets along."
@goingtobednow wrote, "Bigger age gaps ftw!! I and my brother are 7 years apart, no jealousy EVER, no fights, I loved him and took care of him, and he confides EVERYTHING." @gingerfam4 commented, "4 is amazing!! My older often wants to help with the youngest and is legit helpful. Also, the lack of dual meltdowns. One is overstimulating enough." @andreailj said, "I can attest to this 100% I have 3 boys ages 8, 4 and 6 months. Perfect! My oldest 2 play together and help entertain the baby, there's fighting but still."
However, some also disagreed with what Kaitlin said. @alexdobby24 commented, "My sister is 4 years older and we didn't get along well growing up, could have been a rough childhood though."
@charlottekeen4 pointed out, "As a kid with a sibling with a 4-year age gap, I completely disagree. My sister and I were never close growing up, and aren't close at all as adults." @vaalentinafp wrote, "My older sister is 4 years older than me and my brother is 5 years younger than me. I hated the age gap growing up, never became friends or played."