The mom spoke about how she and her husband divide chores and kids' care in shifts and why it works for them.
Managing kids and taking care of household chores is not easy for parents and that is why they usually come up with different solutions to maintain the balance in their lives. The same goes for this couple, who come up with a brilliant idea that works wonders for their home. Sarah Biggers-Stewart, a mom and content creator—who goes by @thebiggersthebetter on TikTok—shared how she and her husband divide household and kids' duties in shifts and it does sound like a clever idea. She says, "We do it by having a morning and a night parent and it is as simple as it sounds."
She continues, “I’m the morning parent, so around 6:30 in the morning, I am up with the kids I’m doing breakfast, brushing their teeth, getting them dressed, doing their hair, packing any bags that need to be packed, that’s the same, pretty much every day, except for one day where we flip.” Stewart then says that her husband comes down by 7:30 in the morning and she loves that extra sleep for him because he is recovering from kidney failure.
Her husband then takes over and she gets ready for work and drops off their kids to school. Then, in the evening, around 6, they play with the kids for some time and then her husband takes the children for bedtime. Stewart explains, “My husband takes the kids upstairs for bedtime. He does playing, he reads books, he does the bath, their brushed teeth, their jammies, and puts them to bed.” Meanwhile, she would put on an audiobook and clean the house.
The mom then shares that once a week, they flip and usually it's Saturday. "Saturday, it's my holiday and I sleep in. So, I can sleep like 9 or 10. I don't set an alarm. I just go with the flow and then I do the Saturday nights," she explains. Stewart says that on Sunday mornings, her husband gets to sleep in and then they are back to their regular routine. She shares why they feel it works for them, “This is so nice because psychologically, the hardest part about being a sleep-deprived, exhausted parent is not that you’re actually sleep-deprived and tired. It’s not knowing when you’re going to be able to catch back up. So just knowing that you have this day waiting for you is so nice." Stewart then speaks about why they chose this approach. She says it is really adjustable. Also, it is easy to tweak and there isn't much confusion to work it out.
"Even for the kids, they know who is going to wake them up and what we are going to do. I do the same way every morning. They know what they are going to do for bedtime because their dad does the same way every night," Stewart shares. She concluded by saying that by doing this, both parents get to focus on just one thing at a time. "It's good for our mental health," the woman says. The video was captioned, "This is how we divide and conquer as working parents." People could resonate with what Stewart shared. @myfavouritemuse commented, "This is exactly what we did when my kid was younger. We called it 'one sane parent.'"
@allilipowi wrote, "I saw someone say it doesn't have to be the roommate era if you make it the teammate era and I stand by that. Divide and conquer and cheering each other on is the way!" @sherwoo23 shared, "This is almost exactly what we do.. but we switch daily. It’s so nice to divide and conquer. We always have some time to ourselves and take turns sleeping in on the weekends." @uliveinasociety said, "This is such a smart way to avoid the 'default parent' problem. The kids know who to ask for help from throughout the day."
@thebiggersthebetter Replying to @jatantillo this is how we divide & conquer as working parents! #workingparents #workingmom #momtalk #momtips #divisionoflabor #housework #keepinghouse #cleanhouse #tidyhome #parentsoftiktok #toddlermom #momswhowork #workingparents #girltalk #realtalk #protip ♬ original sound - Sarah Biggers-Stewart
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