Mom shares 7 affirmations adult children may want to hear from their parents: 'I trust you'

Many parents practice positive parenting in today's time. They ensure to communicate with their child and let them know their value. Moreover, they often check what they need to change as a parent. However, for some adult children, these verbal affirmations were rarely uttered to them and if their parents said these things, it would mean so much to them.

A TikTok user and mom, Barb Schmidt—who goes by @peacefulbarb on TikTok—shared seven things that adult children need to hear and it is resonating. Schmidt is also a best-selling author, a meditation teacher and an activist.

In the video, she lists down seven things one by one and how exactly a parent should say them. She begins by saying, "I'm so proud to be your parents. I'm sorry for any parenting choices I made that hurt you. I'm here to listen if you want to tell me about it. You are incredibly precious to me."

She can be seen doing different chores like lighting a candle, putting flowers into a vase, watering the plants, etc., while listing them. The list continues, "I will always love you no matter what. My life changed for the better because you are in it. Your worth is not determined by your productivity, job title, or your relationship status."

She added, "Tell me about your hopes and dreams for your life. I want to know more about what matters to you."

The video concludes with Schmidt posing a question, "What do you wish a parent would say to you now that you're an adult?" Her video resonated with many and went viral. It gained about 1.2 million views and 102k likes. It captioned, "What's something you wish a parental figure would say to you now that you're an adult?"

People responded to Schmidt's question asked in the end. @tikcarrietok commented, "'I trust you with the decisions you're making in your life.'" @ecommercemaven wrote, "You don't have to live your life based on our fears. Go and live your life how you see fit. We trust you." @alyssamaezta shared, "Just because I remember things differently, doesn't mean how you feel about it is invalid."

@vegasbornandraised expressed, "I wish my mom would believe and say that my worth isn't tied to the size of my body. I wish she'd believe it about herself too." @helensouthland said, "Super helpful. I struggle with how to speak with my grown children. Thank you!"

Kids always look for words of affirmation from their parents, even when they are adults. A mom and TikTok user @finding_torrie asked her parents if they love their grandkids more than their kids, and her father had the most heart-warming response.

Torrie narrated the incident in the video and shared what her father said. “He said, ‘Not more, but different,'” she says. "When I look at your daughter, my grandchild, I don't see her the way you see her, I see her as a whole person."

Torrie revealed he said, "I don't see her the way you see her," when asked to elaborate. "And he said, 'I've seen firsthand you go from a baby to a woman, and I've known all of the 'you's' in between,'" she continued. "When he looks at my daughter, he not only sees this beautiful baby, he sees and loves everything she is and ever will be because he's already seen it in me."

Torrie became emotional after narrating this part of the conversation. She concluded the video by saying, "Ask your parents questions, their answers might be very healing."