Mom makes a meaningful list of what dads should do in the postpartum phase and it's on point

Many people are aware of the fact that pregnancy is a challenging time and new moms have ample struggles physically, emotionally and in every other possible way. Dealing with changes in the body plus the new baby is far more exhausting than one can perceive. In such cases, having support from one’s partner and family is a massive aid. TikTok mom, Melissa, shared a lot of things she feels dad should do postpartum. She said that her list was the “bare minimum,” and said that men should naturally be doing those things anyhow. 

Firstly, the mom mentioned that having a bottle of cold water filled is always a core requirement. Melissa mentioned that the same is so crucial that it shouldn’t even have to get to a point where the mom has to ask for the bottle to be filled, it should be constantly filled by default. The next thing the mom mentioned was the “heating center.” She explained that the pads, heating pads and other disposal equipment that a mom constantly requires postpartum should be constantly restocked and checked. “I know at night it’s like, ‘What can I do, I can’t even feed the baby,’ wake up in the middle of the night for moral support,” the mom suggested. 

Moving on to the next element on the list, the mom pointed out the dire need to appreciate and acknowledge a new mom’s effort. “Tell her she’s a good mom like at least three times a day,” the mom said. “It can feel lonely to be up in the middle of the night with just the baby. Make sure you give her a pat on the back,” Melissa added. The mom further mentioned the need to help and be up and about the housework, especially since it’s the first baby. “Right from changing diapers, making sure you take the baby enough when she needs to shower, etc.” the mom suggested. Melissa then moved on to quickly list what a dad can do postpartum if they already have other kids. Things change when couples have their second or other babies. “You should be doing everything with the other kids,” Melissa said.

She also highlighted the need to check up on new moms and ask them if they need anything and if they’re okay. Next up, the woman recollected the focus on the need to have filled water bottles. Lastly, she mentioned the need to work on house chores. “I understand that the house can be messy with kids and a new baby but don’t make it to a point that it’s completely overwhelming,” the mom said. “I feel like there is so much that moms are going through that guys don’t experience so like be sympathetic to her, go to the store and get her a treat or something you know,” Melissa added. Her views resonated with many parents. @remitontuflip said, “I agree with this, it is the bare minimum and I would add cooking meals and providing food to the list.” @belah_c92 said, “I see these lists and I immediately feel so grateful I got a good one.”