Mom explains why she’ll treat people the way they treated her postpartum and it's resonating with many

Having a support system helps through the most vulnerable moments of your life. One of these moments is often the postpartum period after childbirth for women. While taking on new responsibility and healing through all the changes the body makes, is not easy. Relationships with people, postpartum change due to many possible reasons being new boundaries, differing priorities, or just evolving into a new person.

Sometimes it might even feel that you lack support right when you need it the most. One mom filterlessly shares how she deals with people's attitude changes and loneliness after childbirth. She shed light on how she felt nobody was there for her or helped her and she plans on returning the favor. @courtneyb_says shared a video titled "You never forget how people treated or mistreated you postpartum" and it has been viewed by 700 thousand accounts. 

Courtney says, "How you treated me postpartum is how I'm going to treat you for the rest of your life. I've had two babies, and I'm pregnant with number three right now, and let me tell you something when you are postpartum when you just had that baby, man, people show their true colors." She claims that no other time in her life has shown her who truly matters in her life and who truly cares about the well-being of her and her family. "You're going to know who cares about you, who respects you, who loves you, who is concerned about you, who respects your boundaries, and you're going to find out who doesn't, and I think you'll agree if you've also given birth that you never forget those feelings, right?" she continued.

Courtney goes on to say that even though she had her first child six and a half years ago, she still remembers being let down by people in her life who she thought were on her side. "Some people can make you feel so warm and so appreciated and so loved and so cared for, but some people make you feel like crap. And to those people, I just, I don't have it in me to forgive. You get the same energy back," she added. 

Many mothers resonated with what Courtney shared. "Nevermind postpartum! You realize it while pregnant!" commented @thebiancasimone. "Pregnancy and postpartum, as traumatic as it was, freed me of relationships not worth my energy," wrote @saltyma22. "A friend of mine made us a lasagna and to this day it makes me teary-eyed any time I eat anything she cooked," added @stressed__. It is important to show that you care for your close friends and family. They might need you, especially those who are going to be a parent for the first time. 

The fourth trimester, also known as postpartum life, is one of the most exhausting and vulnerable times for a mother. However, it is also a time when mothers appear to fade into the background as a new life takes center stage. New mothers have recovering bodies, little sleep, and newborn baby to care for, which can be overwhelming, painful, lonely, and frightening. According to new research, loneliness is one of the main factors that contribute to postpartum depression.