This mom is sharing why people should let dads gradually figure out parenting on their own and people agree with her.
Raising a kid is not solely the job of a mother, especially if the father of the child is around all the time as well. When it comes to parenting, both parents are supposed to take on equal amounts of responsibility to take care of the child, so the burden doesn't fall entirely on the shoulders of a mom. However, a major section of society always preaches about mothers neglecting their duties when fathers take over and criticizes dads for their parenting style. One mom on Instagram has made a brief reel to address this issue.
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Amrita T. Saraf, from the Instagram account of @momuninterrupted, talked about this less discussed issue where people often jump in to criticize the parenting style of fathers in a family. She believes that when men are taking parenting responsibilities, they should not be micromanaged as it can hamper their growth as fathers. The overlay text on her Instagram reel read: "Unpopular opinion, but when we are constantly micromanaging how the dads take care of the children, we are not allowing them the complete autonomy to either make mistakes or take up more responsibilities. They will figure it out just as well as mothers do. Go, take that break."
She elaborated more in the caption of the post, where the viewers can see her husband and daughter playing chess. "I am guilty of this too. But I have been relinquishing more and more control because my husband is a grown adult who is capable of taking care of his child," she added and explained how because of this approach, she has been able to take day and week-long trips.
"When I can figure things out, so can he. When I can learn from my mistakes, so can he. When I trust my parenting, I should trust his too. When I want the best for my child, so does he. I think we undersell dads and don’t give them the space to learn and grow and that also backfires on us. It’s okay for us to take a step back when we need to. This doesn’t hold for deadbeat, lazy or uninvolved partners. I am talking to equally involved dads here," the mom concluded her post and asked the Instagram audience to share what they think about it.
@remyarajagopal appreciated Saraf and wrote, "Superbly said. I do the same and let him do things. He gets our son ready for school in the mornings. But the judgment that comes with it is what makes me doubt myself." @not_your.regulartraveller remarked, "So true. Left my little one with his father for a girl's night out last weekend and it was amazing. Gotta trust dads. It will take a while, but I guess it is important for us moms to let go." @rimi_solium quipped, "I more than just let him do it. I catch up on my sleep and me-time when he is at it. And yeah, he is the preferred parent always."
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@ankita_kaushik2912 commented, "My husband has been a hands-on dad and a partner since day 1, be it parenting decisions or even me taking a career break. He has stood like a parent in all the decisions we have taken for both our kids. The things I do after reading he is doing it without knowing." @ravinapgajjar added, "This is so true. Not just mothers, but other family members doubt the fathers. Breaking the patriarchy, my father-in-law in his time, spent so much time with his son (my husband) that my husband loved to spend most of his vacation with his dad rather than going to his grandma's place with his mother. Sometimes fathers play a bigger role in their child’s life."