The mom explains why you might end up feeling like a 'bad mother' while dealing with your kids during summer.
Mothers who have to deal with school-going kids during summer vacations might understand what @itsme_abbye wanted to address with her recent viral video. Abby usually makes videos about motherhood and marriage while covering topics such as why society needs to equalize domestic labor. So, when she shed some light on end-of-the-summer parenting woes, many moms on TikTok could resonate with her. She explained why many moms might feel like they are a failure while trying to micromanage their households along with kids who want to be active and have fun during summer.
"You're wondering if you're a horrible mother because you're at your wit's end and it's the end of the summer and everybody hates each other and there's nothing else to do because you've already done everything and your kids are bored out of their minds so you just keep giving them screen time and tablets and Nintendo and literally anything that will keep them busy enough to stop trying to unalive each other," she said at the beginning of her video which has over 50,000 views so far.
"I'm here to tell you that I've talked to two therapists in the last two days and both of them have affirmed that this is normal. That you're not a bad mom. That it is simply that time of year," Abby explained. "The hot weather that the entire world is experiencing because it's quite literally on fire also plays into your kids' attitudes and behaviors being absolutely horrible." She continued to assure parents that this is a common thing in almost every household where moms and dads have to handle kids who get irritated or bored easily during their summer break.
In her words, there is nothing wrong with choosing a certain way to parent these kids before they fall back into their regular school routine. "So, if you're feeling like you want to run away because you simply cannot keep the peace, your kids are at each other's throats. They hate everything, everyone. You are not alone," Abby added. "And it's okay because life is hard. Parenting is hard because it is hard. Just because you're struggling right now, just because you might hate parenting right now does not in fact make you a bad mom," she shared.
The content creator reminded all the fellow moms watching her video that worrying about being a "bad mom" is actually the first sign that a person is not a bad mom at all. Mothers who were feeling guilty for not being good moms to their kids while the kids keep getting on their last nerves possibly felt seen and understood through Abby's video. They left tons of supportive comments which agreed with Abby's thoughts as well.
@metalbarbiehaley wrote: "Thank you because I kinda just want to go sit in my car and cry some days." @mamapbw commented: "I needed this! I literally told my kids to go live with their dad. I had to apologize to them." @summergal2024, who is a nanny, shared her similar worries: "I'm a nanny and the kids I care for are these kids. We have 2 full weeks home together at the end of August. I'm dreading it!"
@galaapples9876 added: "I needed this! After a full summer of camps, activities, pool and vacations, my kids have been feral. Take the remote and find your happiness. I'm out!" It doesn't matter if you are a mom who is sitting all alone in the house after sending your kids back to school or if you are someone who is waiting for their break to end so you can take time out from the chaos created by them, none of it makes you a bad mother. Following Abby's words, this is just a phase that will come to an end eventually.