'You must be exhausted doing all of this. I have never found my mother at a doctor's appointment growing up,' says the receptionist.
It is a known fact that dads and moms are often treated differently in our society. Dads are overly appreciated for tasks they do once in a while for their children while moms have been doing it the whole time. TikTok user @clarabellecwb makes this discrimination very apparent in her video titled, "If we treated moms like dads: Doctor's office edition."
The video begins with a receptionist telling a dad, "Fill up this paperwork dad and then have a seat in the lobby."
She then flips the narrative and demonstrates what it'd be like if moms were treated like dads at a child's doctor's appointment. Talking to a mother sweetly, she says: "Mom, we never get moms in here. What a wonderful way to spend time with your child, it is so important. I know you are so busy but you are making the time. You really are. Here is a clipboard for this paperwork, here you go."
When the mom is unable to fill in the details in the paperwork, the receptionist tells her, "You don't know the answers to the paperwork okay, let's have a look."
She finds out that most of the paperwork is left blank. "Why don't we have dad fill this in at the next appointment?" says the receptionist.
Even when it becomes evident that the appointment was the day before, she tells the mom: "No, that's okay. I know you were probably so busy with work. Your husband should have more clearly communicated the appointment time with you. We are booked up today."
However, she gets to know that the appointment reminders were sent to the mom's number itself. "Okay, it looks like the number I have on file for appointment reminders is 123 456 78 09 10. That's your number. Okay, that explains it," she says.
She then goes on to change the default number to dad's number so the messages get through. "You must be exhausted doing all of this. I have never found my mother at a doctor's appointment growing up. Times are changing. Mom I don't want to keep you waiting much longer so let me call dad and we'll get another appointment set up," the receptionist then says.
The video concludes with her telling the child, "Okay you are one lucky little boy to have a mom like her."
The video racked up more than 200k views and 43k likes. Many on the social media platform could resonate with what Clare shared. @katiewithakatie commented, "It's always so nice to see moms babysitting their kids." @alexisclairejenniferrose wrote, "Oh Mom! She tries so hard. Really, Dad should appreciate that she even tried." @sax_kitten pointed out, "One of my students missed the spring concert because the email went to the dad and they were legit outraged at how I could possibly expect the dad [to remember]."
love_diet_coke shared, "My husband always does the doctor appointments... One time I took my daughter and the front desk staff said they had assumed my girls didn't have a mom." @authorlizamalloy commented, "The number of times people praise my husband for taking our kids with him to the grocery is astounding." @dianasaladbar wrote, "Same for the school office! Rudest ladies but treated my husband so sweetly. Accommodated him and would barely let me finish my sentence."
However, it is reported that dads today are way more involved with child-rearing than before. A 2022 study shows that dads are a lot more engaged with kids than their previous generations. It claimed that there is a shift in attitude in dads and that they have become way more supportive when it comes to parenting.