Mom bans godmother’s visits after the boy’s dad insults her — then gets furious when she stops sending $1,200 a month

Helping a close friend who needed financial support was not something u/tooprettyinlaw had to think twice about. The author and "Amy" had known each other for five years. They had such a close relationship that Amy even made the author the godmother of her 3-year-old son, James. For the last three years, the author would send her $600 to $1,200 every month to help. But cracks in their friendship started to appear when "Mark," James' dad, came back into Amy's life. When she started seeing him again, her attitude towards the author changed completely. The post was shared on October 23, 2026, and it has had more than 3,800 upvotes and 821 comments.

'I never resented helping her'

The author had no issues giving Amy money every month. She was financially stable, came from a well-to-do family, and had a husband who earned a six-figure salary. However, Amy was a single mother, and her salary was not enough for her and James. Mark was of no help, and she had no family support. Aside from the monthly allowance, the author also paid for James' christening after Amy asked her to be his godmother. She explained, "I never resented helping her, as she was like a sister to me."

But recently, Mark came back into Amy's life. During one of their arguments, Amy let it slip that the author suggested she file for child support. Mark already did not like the author for certain reasons. But after their tiff, he found the author's number. "[He] called me with insults while accusing me of being against him, as I was using the court system against a Black man (I am Black myself)," the author noted. He brought up some of the things she told Amy in confidence that made her think Amy discussed her personal business with him.

'Needed the money more'

To clear the air, the author took Amy to lunch. She confronted Amy, who admitted she had let the information slip during pillow talk. She also told the author that because she was dating Mark again, she was not allowed to see or talk to James anymore. When the author asked why, she said that "she had to respect Mark’s decisions because he was his father." The author agreed to distance herself from Amy and James but was heartbroken because she lost a friend and a "nephew."

When the author told her husband what happened, he was furious about what Mark said to her. "He also suggested I stop the monthly financial support, and I agreed," the author recalled. When the author explained her decision to Amy, she crashed out. The author reiterated what Amy said: "I was abandoning my godson and leaving her struggling financially. She admitted Mark still wasn’t supporting her but complained that she needed the money more than me for expenses, daycare, and emergencies." Amy also called the author "selfish" and "disgusting" for not supporting her anymore just because she couldn't see James anymore.

Financial friction

Even the strongest relationships can break because of money. A CFP Board survey found that 57% of Americans said money had caused friction with someone they knew well. The survey also found that 21% of Americans experienced tension with close friends over money. According to the Bread Financial survey, 21% of American adults reported losing friends due to money.

Lastly, the Consumer Financial Protection Bureau (CFPB) found that one in three American adults provide financial support to their friends or family. The author tried to be a good friend by giving Amy money without expecting any of it back. But when Amy chose Mark over her friend, she still dared to expect money from her.

Readers assured the author she was not the villain in the story. u/PeepingTara commented, "If Mark wants to have a say and play daddy, he can pay for the privilege. You don’t get cut off and keep paying; it’s Mark or you." u/mioclio wrote, "NTA. She f**ked around and found out twice. She can't treat you like that and expect you to keep supporting her. Let her baby daddy step up."

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