Men spill the beans on 10 quirky traits they love about their girlfriends or wives, highlighting how love changes one's perception.
Everybody has some insecurities that they are not okay with. But most of the time, such insecurities arise due to overthinking, which really does not matter in the real world. A lot of us face this problem and tend to view ourselves under a harsh lens. Interestingly enough, many of these supposed shortcomings might just be considered cute and quirky by our partners. On a similar note, u/Daffles21 asked men of the Reddit community, "Men, what is something that your wife/girlfriend dislikes about herself that you actually find attractive?" Here are 10 of the most wholesome answers that they had to provide.
Her hair. She has natural curly hair, it turns me on. She hates it. I LOVE it. u/SlashySpider. My SO finally talked me into not straightening mine as he loves my curls. It's so much easier. One day at a drive-through, I heard I had "romance novel hair" after. Went home and thanked him. This whole thread makes me realize how hard we are on ourselves unnecessarily. u/Comfortable-Wish-192. My wife was the same. I looked up the curly girl method, it's a care plan for curly hair and recommended it to my wife and now she has "proper curls," as she puts it, instead of frizz. She loves it. u/Fresh_Technology8805.
Her hair is going grey and I think it's just the best. She hates the idea of getting older. I love growing older with her. u/LongRest. Bruh, my wife's grey hair drives me wild. Damn, I wish she wouldn't dye her hair. u/Finally_Adult. I absolutely agree with this. My wife is of Asian descent and has very dark hair. She is in a highly specialized profession and the grey just starting in her hair. It makes her look distinguished and, I don't know, powerful or something like that. It really suits her and I love it. She hates it and is allergic to most hair dyes, so couldn't dye it if she wanted to, which makes her hate it more. u/DrWYSIWYG.
My wife has a white streak in her hair from a birthmark. She hates it. It was the thing that made me stare at her the day we met. Last week was the 29th anniversary of our first date. u/Dull-Front4878. I have this too and my spouse also loves it and doesn't want it dyed. I'm only in my thirties, but I get more compliments on it than anything else. u/DIYwithReddit. I would kill to have this. I knew a girl with it growing up and I was so damn jealous of her. u/red_whiteout
Her ears stick out. She covers them with her hair. But I think they are adorable. u/Syber50. I love when ears poke through hair, as if they were elven's, ah. Women complain, but we delight. Weird we are. u/PorkGently. Tell her there are girls in China who do surgery to get ears like that and girls who put sort of double-tape things behind their ears to make them stick out because it makes you prettier (smaller face). u/Skhuko. My ex got surgery to fix this while we were dating. I thought her natural ears were very cute, but she confided to me early on they were her biggest insecurity, so I didn't want to override her feelings by bringing up my opinion without being asked. If she ever asked me, I would reply honestly, but she never did. u/Garchomp
She likes to talk a lot. I actually enjoy listening to her talk because her voice is like something crafted from god himself. She always says, "Are you even listening? I feel like I'm talking too much" and then when I recite everything she said for the past 20-30 mins she kind of blushes. u/ZeroThoughtsAlot. I love it when my girlfriend starts rambling. Unfortunately, I am ADHD and often get so distracted by how amazing her voice sounds that I completely blank on the actual words. u/BloodOfTheDamned. The quiet partner and the talkative partner - the perfect blend. I'm quieter, they talk more. They sing too. I don't usually care too much. I love what they talk about (I only care when I'm overstimulated and need a little quiet and they need all the stimulation, lol). But I'll listen to them all the time. u/Binx_da_gay_cat
Her sneeze. She's not super self-conscious about it, but she acknowledges it's a bit weird. I think it's cute. She does a normal splutter and about half a second later, this little feminine "choo" that's totally not part of the sneezy chaos. It's kinda like "haaa...spssst....choo." u/FinalEdit. I have this sneeze! My husband, at the time, coined it as a "Happy-choo" sneeze. I have a variety of sneezes, actually and I remember him liking that about me. I had to laugh at how accurately you described it! It's cute that you like it. u/SaltySibling. It's so weird how different people's sneezes are. I know someone who has the most adorable high-pitched little "choo" and another where it literally sounds like someone is murdering her. Like a blood-freezing scream straight from a horror movie. The first few times I heard it, I got an immediate surge of adrenaline, thinking she found a dead body or something. u/ShrubbyFire1729
My wife has slightly crooked front teeth. She hates it and constantly says she wants to get cosmetic dentistry to fix it the moment it becomes financially feasible. I, however, love it. It's one of the things I've always loved the most about her physical appearance because it's so unique to her and I find it so adorable. That being said, I would also have no issues paying for her to get it fixed in a heartbeat as well because as much as I love it, I also want her to love herself and be happy with her own physical appearance. u/PunkLivesInMe. My wife has a gap between her front teeth, which she says makes her look goofy. I think it's adorable. u/Leicsbob
My wife talks about how she got kicked out of choir in high school because she can't sing. And she can't carry a tune in a bucket to save her life. But I love hearing her sing her favorite songs. When she gets so excited that she can't hold it back. I could listen to her sing all day. u/ohmytosh. Meanwhile, I've been told most of my life that I have a beautiful voice, but my ex yelled at me because my harmonies weren't good when I was singing along to the radio in my car during a 5-hour drive. One of the last straws that broke the camel's back in that relationship and I was self-conscious about harmonizing for years after that. u/isfturtle2
My old lady is concerned about her weighing quite a bit more than when we first got together. To that point, her cooking is what made me fat again. So like, you made us both fat. Congratulations, we are in this together. Happy fat. u/skinnybonesmalone21. HA! When I moved in with my husband, I started cooking up a STORM. We both gained a little weight. Took me a very long time (years) to get back on my healthier diet. I just wanted to cook him all the best foods all the time! u/SpicyTiger838. My wife is currently pregnant and is self-conscious about the weight she's gained, but I think it's beautiful. u/Burglin_7Vrd5
My wife has coffee-colored skin... dark coffee if anything. In her culture (China), paleness is considered desirable and healthy for women. As for me, I actually like her color. She always worried about it, but it was one of the things that attracted me to her. u/TheDevilsAdvokaat. Cultures with mostly dark skin value pale skin. Cultures with mostly pale skin try to tan to darken their skin. Then you have people from the Middle East who have every skin tone and they like the extreme ends of the spectrum. Then, on the internet, people want fur or blue skin. Humans are weird. u/Enorminity