Men blamed 'picky' women for online dating nightmare, until coworker pulled up her Tinder — their jaws dropped

Thriving without genuine connections is challenging, as humans are social animals. However, when discussions about the male loneliness epidemic flooded the internet, many were quick to blame women for "raising their standards." But when u/broken-imperfect found herself in a similar debate with her male colleagues on November 11, she didn't let it pass. Instead, she pulled up real-time proof showing that men themselves are the cause of the epidemic.

u/broken-imperfect was at work when her male co-worker and male manager were talking about the male loneliness epidemic. They lamented how "hard men have it on dating apps." The author quickly chimed in to share her thoughts. "You think women have an easy time on dating apps?" she asked, to which they replied, "Men are unequivocally oppressed on dating apps." The author decided to show them exactly where they were wrong. She opened her Tinder and asked them to find her a suitable partner among the matches she had received in the last 10 minutes. However, their reactions were as hilarious as eye-opening. "Some of my favorite quotes included: 'Why is he holding a gun to his head? Why is he naked? Is he being intimate with another woman in this picture? (The answer was yes.) Do you think he showers? (Answer was probably not.) There is a moldy Starbucks drink behind him." After a rollercoaster of scrolling, they finally found a "decent" man who seemed like a great match.

"However, 10 minutes into matching with him, the illusion quickly shattered. "His first (and only) message came about 10 minutes later, and he said, 'u gon let me f**k?' I also showed them this message."

While the author believes it was inappropriate to let her manager swipe on Tinder for her, she felt relieved to have proven her point. "Anyway, they no longer believe women are just violently bullying average-looking men on dating apps. They accept that men are their biggest enemies when it comes to online dating," she wrote. A 2021 study published in Frontiers noted that men's behavior was a pathway to male loneliness. The researchers found that among young and mid-adult men, lower emotional awareness leads to greater distress concealment, which in turn increases loneliness. While the author's male co-workers tried to claim that "no one wants to talk to them," she countered with a bigger question: When was the last time a man tried to start a genuine conversation without an ulterior motive? 

Soon after the post went viral, many woman shared their thoughts on he subject. u/estagon26 wrote, "PERFECT. I'm sick of people saying how easy dating must be for women. It's like telling someone who posted a job and got 400 applicants they have it easy even though none meet the qualifications." u/AngileMastodon0909 commented, "As an HR manager, I would not have batted an eye had this happened in front of me in my office. You are all consenting adults engaging in thought provoking conversation." u/Background-Roof-112 shared, "This post may have temporarily restored my will to live. Queen!"

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